M19
are people even after young guys on here,if so am i just ugly because no one messages or likes me
August 29 2025
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FeistyFatty
9 months ago
Happy to, but not if they look, act and communicate younger than my own sons. Instant turn off.
BarberBoss1981
9 months ago
Baby you look 15...thats going to make it hard for you on here i think
OpalRose
9 months ago
Maybe use your photography skills to capture yourself anywhere but a public toilet. 🙄
RHP User
9 months ago
You won't get the answer you want here.
Go and learn about building bonds, trust and connections and also learn how to lose people with grace and come back from it.
Be spiritually, emotionally and physically respected. Take satisfaction in journeys through other peoples minds and hearts.
Then come back here in 5 years and you'll have a great time.
Also learn how grammar works. It doesn't take long.
Andrea_Sydney
9 months ago
Ah darling, no…not your age.
Since you asked…I recommend to start with real life first. Learning how to communicate, be charming, hold interesting conversations, social skills such as showing up physically and mentally. I don’t think it’s possible to be successful on here without any of that. It’s hard for the men who have all that.
You also look really very young. I hope you will connect with a sweet teenage girl and take her out on dates and do all of the above with her and get amongst your own circle.
You can’t skip that and go straight to the swinging scene. It would never work darling. All the best! Xx
MsSuperFoxy
9 months ago
Maybe ask your mother because she might be on here. 🤷♀️
Ms FoxyMsSuperFoxy
9 months ago
The deal is you’re an 18yr old (spring chicken), on an adult site, asking strangers if they seek younger.
You'll never know who you're going to met.
I just hope you don't end up in a family reunion; "That folks, is how I met my mother".
Ms Foxy 🙏 🫣
Nightglider
9 months ago
I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Although you’re at the younger end of the RHP community, I believe you deserve more respect than some of the comments you’ve received here. RHP can be a tough place for guys at the best of times, and while some points people have raised may be valid, the way many were delivered could definitely have been kinder.
I have a daughter a little older than you, and honestly, I wouldn’t like to see her spoken to in the way some replies have come across.
The swinging community is usually more inclusive. It can take time to find your place, especially when you’re starting out. That doesn’t mean you don’t belong here, it just requires patience and time to build genuine connections. Don’t let ageist or dismissive responses discourage you.
I know that this post may not be well received by many. But a little kindness and consideration from an intent point of view goes a long way.
Bathroom pics are not always best to use IMO. You sound like you enjoy photography. Get creative. Again, I hope you find what you’re looking for.Nightglider
9 months ago
Adding to previous comment, and more inline with your original question.
You’ll probably find there are people here who enjoy connecting with younger guys, but everyone has their own boundaries about what feels “too young.” For me personally, it’s when someone is close in age to my own kids.
I’m not sure how many women around your age use this site, and as I mentioned before, it can be tough here for guys at any age. At your age, though, a lot of women may be in a similar situation to me, where they also have kids your age, and that can affect their comfort level.
At the end of the day, it really comes down to comfort and alignment for each person
The_Milkman
9 months ago
Ok my bro, here’s some real talk for you and this is coming from a good place - trust me.
First of all your age works both ways. At 18, a lot of older women might see you as inexperienced or not yet fully settled in yourself. That doesn’t mean you’re “ugly” – it just means some people on these sites are looking for guys who are a bit more established, confident, and consistent. Age isn’t a bad thing, but it does shape what people expect.
Secondly bro your profile comes across as a bit much, too fast. You’ve listed bondage, candle wax, anal, outdoor play, etc. straight away. The thing is, for someone new (and especially younger), it can read like you’re trying to tick off kinks without much experience behind them. Many women especially older ones are cautious about jumping into heavy stuff with someone who’s still just finding his feet.
Good luck out there bro 🤜🏼🤛🏽
Thesunlovingsub
9 months ago
You haven’t given any indication on your bio about what type of person or connection you’re interested in.
And definitely get rid of the toilet pics.
It’s tough for guys on here. The demographic is generally much older because young people often haven’t developed the emotional or sexual maturity to participate in this lifestyle successfully. The male:female ratios are very skewed, and women get jack of being treated like a product to be consumed, and not a human being.
EarthQueen
9 months ago
It's honestly probably going to be quite hard to meet women on here. Do a search in your area and see how many women actually come up that are interested in your age and match with you. It's not you, I think this platform would probably have an older demographic and while some women date younger, 18 is very young for most.
seekandplay
9 months ago
Hey! I’ve sat here quietly and watched this post unfold since the beginning… want to say good on you for changing your photos and bio. We give feedback all the time and the amount of men who actually change their profiles after asking for help is generally none!
Absolutely nothing wrong with mirror pics as you’ve questioned (and have changed!) but it was what we could see in the background. Mine are all mirror photos I think!
Regarding your age, it’s definitely going to have a huge part to play. I’ve mentioned this in a few posts where younger men have asked similar questions. Generally due the mental load women tend to hold, the last thing we want is to have to ‘train’ a younger man. 18 years is very fresh and for me personally, I would make the assumption that I’m not going to get what I want and need so wouldn’t entertain the idea. On top of that, as mentioned by others, the age can be very close to children of our own and that in itself is a turn off.
RHP is a crazy place, I’d be getting out with your friends and meeting people in a social setting seeing as you’re so young. Life is already so hard as an adult, don’t over complicate more than you need to at such a lovely age.
That said - if the swinging/ENM world is what you’re drawn to, then good luck. Stay safe. Have fun!Water8oy
9 months ago
Hey mate, respect to you for sharing your experience on a site that, in all honesty, can test your patience and even play with your confidence. Life experiences build character and strengthen your mind. I'm 45, and on RHP, i take knockbacks,lack of replies, and even being stood up like a grain of salt. But I have also had my fun. My life experiences have hardened me for any disappointment that comes my way. As a young man yourself, you are still raw like we all were at 18. I'd suggest to go and experience life, maybe even sometime get a partner and share great experiences together, respectfully and hopefully gain feelings where you treat her well, like a man, and your confidence and attitude will mature with age. In years to come, if you are single and wish to explore further then go for it, come back with more knowledge and understanding of what you are wanting to experience because you will be seen as more appealing to others knowing you have a bit of life experience behind you. Just my opinion mate, Totally up to you if you stay on here or not but people are genuinely pretty good to talk to on here/forum if you want to chat to people. Stay positive in general buddy.
nightingale8
9 months ago
The good thing about 18 is you do nothing on RHP and next thing you know you’re older and can try again. You’ve only increased in age points.
I wouldn’t seek an 18 year old as it’s too close to under age. Don’t want to end up on the news, exasperated, blurting out the line, “but he said he was 18!”RHP User
9 months ago
At the age of 18, you should really be with other 18 year olds.
RHP doesn’t have that many people your age.
Maybe try Tinder or real life places.
You are not ugly by any means.
Some people want a man that is older and more experienced.
I personally prefer men who are 30 - 45ish
I wish you luck in life tho and may you find someone you are looking forRHP User
9 months ago
Trust me bro, men don’t peak until early to mid 30s. No one here is really telling you the truth but it’s the hard facts of life. There is a reason why there is trends / reels about focusing on yourself for the first 10 years - your education, fitness, life experience. Don’t chase or focus on women at your age, if you don’t you’ll be so far ahead that by the time you’re 28 you’ll be way ahead of the competition. Take it from me, I barely try and am 1000% more successful than my younger self - and I don’t mean just sexually.
9CHAMELEON6
9 months ago
@MrB07 to be honest you could pass as under-age so I believe that would be a big factor as to why
ArtsyLusttty
9 months ago
I'm sapiosexual and I prefer someone I get to know the person before I meet the person. However you sent me an email about sex toys and that we meet to play with it. Instant turn off.
Please do listen what other people say in here. There are great posts of it. I personally think you should get out of here and meet up with someone closer to your age.
Good luck.
ArtsyRHP User
9 months ago
Mate you’re young and you seem genuine and obviously after some fun times with the ladies. Get yourself out to some clubs or bars with a few mates and just enjoy yourself and hit a few young ladies up. You should be having the time of your life at your age. You don’t need this site. Do it the old fashioned way like all us oldies did when we were younger. Have fun.
domesticgoddess
9 months ago
U will find many woman who do prefer younger. My only advice is ,during g chats don’t act like you Casanova who is gonna rock her world. Be humble.
fumina06
9 months ago
Thats reality. U need to be extra hot to get attentions :(
Life is never fairfumina06
9 months ago
Btw, your not ugly just need to learn the art of seduction 👍🏻
Unleash
9 months ago
Baby, you’re so young.. try again in 4 years
bigwhereitcounts
9 months ago
Mate, this site is very much a hard road for most of the guys on here regardless of age or experience. Women are absolutely inundated with messages and unless you look like a Greek god getting replies is hard enough, let alone maintaining the correspondence to the point you have success in actually meeting up in person. Without a bit of life experience and built up resilience it has the real possibility of destroying your confidence before you even have a chance to build some. As others have said, go out with your mates to pubs and clubs, have fun, drink, laugh, have a dance and know that this is the most attractive way to present yourself to the opposite sex. There is nothing wrong with your looks, you are far from ugly and attitude will get the girls more often anyway. I don’t consider myself to be all that in the looks department but I will tell you I have met most of the women I’ve been with in real life, I often “pick up women” in real life situations, particularly on nights out and it’s because I am not trying too hard, just having a good time, smiling, having fun and being generally fun to be around. The best way to learn bedroom skills is to be with someone long enough to tune into how their body (and mind) reacts to the things you are doing and learning to last long enough to explore that dynamic. Not saying get off this site but if success here is what you are judging yourself on it’s probably not a good thing. If I was, I’d be very down on myself. I stay here in the hope I can find something a bit more specific to some of the experiences I want or want to have again! Get out there and remember, if you never shoot your shot nothing will happen. Say hi to that girl you like in the pub or club, ask them how their night is going or pay them a genuine compliment, let them know your interested by giving them your attention and time and if they are clearly not interested move on with a smile and talk to someone else. Talk to anyone, not just the girls and people will notice genuine friendliness and a certain someone/s will like it. If you can project confidence you will find yourself winning at this and in life. Honestly, this is the stuff I wish someone had told me at 18 yrs old. Best of luck mate, believe in yourself and you might find others believe in you and will gravitate to you.
shespineapples
9 months ago
Stop caring & in between the likes & messages that do come your way, go live your best life, is my advice. Everything will fall into place when it’s meant to 🤗
Screamqueen
9 months ago
You should try grindr. I've heard young guys are VERY popular over there!
selfless__lover
8 months ago
People don't really look at age so much as they do maturity. You can often tell someone's maturity levels by the way they frame their photos, how they've written their bio and how they interact with other members.
Some of your comments above when people have been having a playful joke or taking the Mickey out of you, tell me you should focus on your maturity and not taking life (or comments on the internet) so seriously.
In terms of being 18, there are parties that are aimed at the younger crowd, such as under 30's or even Between Friends under 33 night. If you start attending some events and make friends along the way, you are more likely to meet someone at an event or party, than just by sending messages out on here.
dianet
8 months ago
You are not ugly or unattractive but like with anyone else and anywhere else, you have to find "your people".
Most single guys, regardless of age, have trouble getting likes or messages when they start out by themselves for the first time in this lifestyle. Some start out as a couple or introduced through friends, parties and groups, later getting a single profile with a few connections in place.
Like any online platform, this place is not free from keyboard judgments and rude behavior. Get yourself out to social events and in the community as much as possible and meet people in person. You only need one or two genuine connections to get you that experience, and I don't mean just sex.
Wish you all the best young man! I hope entering this lifestyle brings you growth, maturity and fulfillment as a whole.RHP User
8 months ago
Hi I'm looking for someone like you to suck my boobs 😘🫦👅
RHP User
8 months ago
Are you available
Needsexy
8 months ago
Hey how are you all
RHP User
6 months ago
doubt it. even at 31 this site is not good, that goes for older, same or younger
HarleeJayne
6 months ago
Ahh helloooo I have liked you mr … I only just got back on here
Kinkraft
5 months ago
I've always looked (far) too young for my age. My partners have been called cradle snatchers, referred to as my mum, and we've heard many other similar opinions. All my partners have been younger than me by at least 6 years.
Now that something akin to 'I've got some experience here' has been offered:
Men have an easier time later in life when we're mature and established. Young men are not on a wavelength that women find appealing. Our attention and priorities aren't yet resolved in a way that sparks a woman's interest.
Focus on yourself first, and maintain that focus regardless of what anyone else says/does. You are the priority in your life. Meet people offline even if you maintain something of a presence online. People stand a chance of getting to know you in person when you'd quickly be dismissed online (often for reasons other than 'you').
You'll either find someone who doesn't much care about your age/youth or someone who likes the idea of 'breaking you in', regardless of whether that's true. As a side story; I went to a strip joint when I was 18 and looked young enough that I became a curiosity... enough that I found myself surrounded by attentive strippers vying for my attention. Not that I had any idea what to do in that novel situation. And, I tell this story to lead you towards attending events as a way of meeting people. Maybe you'll align with someone's kink.
For reference, I'm getting on towards 50... and still look somewhere in my 30s. I get about 1 woman looking at my profile each week. Maybe a like every few months. A match... a couple times a year, maybe. Finding women online is not the way to go about things... there's too much competition, and if you can see a few 'better men' (so-to-speak) in that mix, you're not likely to get much attention.
It's also worth adding that women don't often search through online profiles; at least, not with the same dedication as men. Women receive a wave of likes and messages when they first join RHP, which sets the stage for who they consider and talk to. You need to present with 'more' than the other people in that lineup; with that 'more' being tied to what she's interested in.
Just be honest about who you are and what you're about. Someone who's interested in 'you' will show up at some point. But be patient about it... there's a long life ahead of you. Focus on developing yourself before wondering why women aren't interested.
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