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What would you go back and tell your younger self about the life you live now?
February 23 2026
1. Don't make yourself feel small to make other people feel big. That includes saying no when you mean it, and not yes just to keep people happy.
2. Your 40's are going to be some of your best years... don't be scared of getting older. Holy hell are they amazing!
3. Don't ever apologise about your body, ever again. She's birthed babies, lived through a chronic illness you thought would end you... who cares if you have a few tummy rolls and cellulite. Your body is a story, even if you still don't really love her. Try and love her a little more though.
4. One day you'll decide to download an app called
RHP... don't rush and meet the first men who show interest in you. You'll learn that men will ALWAYS show interest, it's finding the quality that will bring you the most happiness. You'll learn soon enough the difference between men and THE MEN.
5. You'll search for validation in stupid places and people, you'll learn that it still makes you feel like shit. So, follow your gut and do what makes you happy. Not what men ask you to do. Consent woman, consent god dam it!!
6. You'll die at the price of Honey Birdette lingerie, but it will make you feel like a million bucks - so buy a few pieces to make yourself feel good after feeling so defeated in a vanilla marriage.
7. You'll be the new shiny toy at elite private parties, where you'll be taken advantage of and hurt. But you'll learn from that experience and become so much stronger than you ever thought you'd become.
8. You'll meet some amazing people who will shape the life you live for a while and whose names you'll remember always.
9. You're going to be scared & nervous, but excited & curious. Embrace the curiosity head on!
You?
❤️
Comments
Nightglider
3 months ago
Yes to most of these things my friend. Love number four, Helped me connect with you 😘
selfless__lover
3 months ago
Some great advice here and a question I ponder myself at times. I met my ex wife who was 7 years older at 17 and started dating at 18. Bought a house at 21, married at 26, lost a child at 27, my son's at 28 and 29 and divorced before I was 31. Then straight into another 13 year relationship.
I wish I could go back and tell me younger self a few of the things above along with:
- You can't love someone else until you know who you are and truly love yourself
- It is ok to have a voice in a relationship and having a different view isn't being argumentative or difficult.
- Arguments in a relationship happen, it's how you both conduct yourself that matters
- Don't be so afraid of being single that you remain in unhealthy relationships
- It's ok to admit you can't do everything on your own and ask for help
sublime
3 months ago
Wholeheartedly agree with number 4 too ,
Apples_N_Oranges
3 months ago
A very insightful and well written topic, advice that couples can also apply to their experiences/navigating the world of RHP. 1, 6 & 7 stand out to us, you should never change who you are/your personality/ do things you don’t want to do to suit others. Honey Birdette definitely does damage to the bank account, but, no regrets, it’s hot stuff 🔥. To hear of people, especially single women, being taken advantage of infuriates us, unfortunately it has happened to us and we have seen it happen to others. We can only hope that those who behave that way/use manipulative tactics to get what they want, are called out on their behaviour/s and there is some form of repercussion.
LandR202
3 months ago
I’d tell myself not to invest so much energy into outrunning my past.
I’d say that being different, complicated and conflicted is more than enough and that it’s perfectly ok not to be perfectly ok.
I’d tell myself that it’s ok to rest, laugh and spend time daydreaming.
I’d tell myself not to apologise every time I walked into a room and that it’s ok to take up a little space in the world.
I’d congratulate myself for making it as far as I did.
And I’d tell myself not to live like there’s no tomorrow, because one day I’ll have wonderful things to live for.
R x
MsSuperFoxy
3 months ago
At 15 to18 I was hanging out with nuns at boarding school.
If I’d known then what I know now!
Back then the only man I knew who got nailed was Jesus. 😂🤣
Ms Foxy
Unbecoming
3 months ago
You are not a problem to be solved x
No one else will take care of you, that is your privilege and responsibility x
You cannot heal other people (no matter how hard you try), that is their job x
Learn how to not abandon yourself and your needs in your relationships x
Boundaries, get some 💕
55SexyandSingle
3 months ago
I recently posted this on my FB page for any of my beautiful girlfriends who might have been doing it tough or doubting themselves and their worth.
It really resonated with me as they are all things I would liked to have known when I was younger.
10 Pieces of advice to every woman :
1. When respect is no longer there, find your way out. Although it is hard to start over, do not wait until you lose yourself.
2. Do not chase love. Chase your dreams instead.
3. No one has the right to make you feel worthless. You are more than enough.
4. If someone really loves you, they will pursue you and will make real efforts.
5. Please know that you are beautiful together with your scars and imperfection.
6. You do not need to compare yourself to anyone. You have a different journey to take.
7. Your only competition is yourself. Hone your skills and be a better version of you.
8. If it fails, it is not love in the first place. True love bends but it never breaks.
9. Working hard is good but you have to prioritize your health. Find time to be with your family (or friends who are your family). They are the ones who will be there for you in your darkest days.
10. Prioritize yourself. Love yourself. It has long been overdue. ♥️
MrandMrsEss
3 months ago
What an great topic and I think we can feel all these either individually or as a couple. I think if I was to have a word to the 15-18yo me I would have said to stop thinking about what everyone tells you is the right thing to do and just take time to get to know yourself and the world you live in. I'd tell me to not give my heart away until I had taken this time as although I might have missed out on a cracker of a first love I wasn't really ready for it.
I asked MrsS the question and the answer was very hard for her, she was too busy supporting her family at that age to ever be able to thing about herself. She finally came up with she would tell herself to go out and enjoy her youth and not listen to her mother so much. She initially said she would tell herself that life isn't a fairytale, this is what amazes me about her is she had such a hard life but still thought it was magical.
We ended up laughing together as she listed the fairytale of meeting someone to share a deep love, have family and live a great life. It seems fairytales come true even if it takes 30 years. I love the way we compliment each other with our differences, I jumped head first into relationships, which were all good but never going to be the fairytale I wanted. She waited and waited and waited, patiently, happy in herself till we met and for some reason only her god knows I seem to be the one to share the fairytale with.
The big question is, if we could give advice to our younger selves and we took different paths because of it, would we be here right now saying we'd go back and tell ourselves something completely different?
What we have done shapes who we are now and maybe right now we have the best opportunity to be the best we can be.
nutsundae
3 months ago
Great thread! Given 18 year old me was a little shit who thought he knew everything and wouldn't listen to whatever wise words current me pleaded him to heed, I would probably keep it super simple:
- I will always believe in you.
Fuckyousweetness
3 months ago
I would say to my 16 yr old self dont masterbate with the bedroom door open it only a matter of time before you are caught....and...this life you lead every aspect of it you choose to live it, to learn from each and everyone of the experiences.
You will not understand what you are learning from it, you will not understand the growth you are gaining from it but you have mapped your path before you were even on this planet.
No one forced you to be here it was your choice. Every choice you make is your responsibility own it and continue. Every emotion is your choice every action is your choice every reaction is your choice.
If people or life treats you bad ( that is your perception.....begs to ask if you are and those around you are growing from it is it really bad ) you chose that scenario as if you didn't chose it it would not have happened, if you choose to stay in that scenario for 25yrs that will be your choice. But through all of it you will have agreed with that person or persons that you go through it with. Together through this (life play) you will both gain and grow. This person may actually and more likely be the duality of yourself.
If you drift nicely through life with no trauma or chaos you will grow still, maybe you don't need those lessons as you have lived them before maybe you are not ready to learn them at all, but in the end you will not avoid them if you have deemed you need to live them.
If you have nothing but pain and chaos and drama physical emotional you have chosen to learn the lessons that come with it. Maybe you want to get as much done in one go compared to many life times. Maybe you want to excelerate your growth as you are ready. Its probably where the term god does not give you more than you can handle comes into play.
My last piece of advice to me would be. Every thing you do is your choice and the outcome of that choice, nothing you go through is not your choice alter your perception as best you can, and whatever you do please🙏 buy shitloads of bitcoin when it comes into fruition and hold it for 20yrs. And don't buy a commodore ever my God kid you have the talent for picking the shittest one ever put up for sale.
boobsandbusted
3 months ago
I’d tell myself to investigate laser hair removal ,while young before the hairs go grey and can’t be done ,in all those spots I have to shave and trim now,and to think of the money ,could have saved on blafes long term when looking at the price thinking wow that’s a little bit pricey ,lol
Mr b
The_Perfect_Pair
3 months ago
I couldn’t agree more with point 6. It’s an expensive but totally understandable addiction. ~ H
Also agree with number 2! 😘
nightingale8
3 months ago
I’d tell myself don’t listen to an old fart like me. I’ve forgotten how hard it was. Stay skeptical, stay real and appreciate that rocking body. It’ll take you places you never dreamed!
It will also give up sometimes like a sad sack too lol. Take the wins!
Temptress_T
3 months ago
Love this one.
I would tell her that there are some amazing people out there that you will be surprised you find the connection with. Trust your gut, find out for yourself, dont let others be your judgment.
Number 4 and Number 8 are perfect.
Notice_Me
3 months ago
We should should all start to live
before we get too old.
Fear is stupid
so are Regrets.
currently in my 3rd puberty :)
Deeper_Levels
3 months ago
These are such good lessons any 15-18yr old girl would've love to have known. I particularly like 4 & 5 very good advice to stand by
Marcus7619
3 months ago
If it’s hard from the start it always will, during the partnership
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