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To all the interesting intellectual men who comment and put up forum topics

May 14 2026

So I am quite new to the lifestyle and new to the journey and RHP in itself. I just wanted to say there are some really interesting and intriguing men on this site. I enjoy some of the answers, comments and Forums posted by the guys.

My question is- even though they are geographically not in your zone or even in your sphere (BDSM - I am so not into impact) or not even looking to play solo yet via the Pie (I am one half of a couple) etc, should you message to say “Hi, I enjoyed your comment/forum/live chat”?
Is that considered a waste of time if there is no chance of play ever to be involved? Do you guys even just want to make chat friends or is it all about the potential sex?

Please let me know guys as I am not sure of the etiquette on this. Thanks Bri

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MrandMrsEss
20 days ago
Not single but I do all the chatter on here. I do like communicating with people over a lot more things than trying to get in their pants and have had some very fulfilling chats via private messages. I don't think it hurts to reach out with an interesting message although some will automatically take it you will open your legs for them if you show even the faintest interest.
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mysterious_soul
20 days ago
i made some chat friends before. just send a nice message never know where it can take you. life is a journey full of surprises ☀️
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MsSuperFoxy
20 days ago
Welcome
Of course you can send an email stating you've enjoyed reading their forum posts. IMO It's not a waste of time.

I receive them all the time.

Ms Foxy
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RHP User
20 days ago
I think that’s a good idea - people use the forums to learn and share ideas which is the foundation for connection.

I’ve begun conversations with people in the past through forum discussions which have all been positive.
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CallMeV
19 days ago
Nice question. You shouldn’t be hesitant to appreciate or help anyone (in and out of RHP).

How a person will take your message (is it just an appreciation or is she hitting me) depends on how you convey it. I have been asked about parties in Melbourne by so many interstate couples visiting Melbourne. I always find time to respond if I feel they are genuine.

Infact, a couple chose me for their first MFM, when I was helping them with how to find/choose the right people. Sometimes you can create a friendship out of a random appreciation.
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Temptress_T
19 days ago
I think it is great to send a message of appreciation to to someone one that post. Geographically we are far but a lot of us (inlcuding myself) travel a lot. I have meet some amazing people that post in the forums and the conversations have flowed like we have known each other for years.
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boobsandbusted
19 days ago
Sure why not ,I am the chatter ,Mrs b can’t stand online chat or what she thinks is wasting brain space and time ,she’s a face to face girl ,me I could chat all day with100 percent no intentions other than a good chat , if it does go down the path and head to sexy chat then I will politely decline as that I am also a face to facer and is an agreement I have with Mrs b ,no naughty sex chat with the lady’s but feel free to chat away if it’s just chatting ,

Mr b
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nutsundae
19 days ago
can only speak for myself, but I love it when someone drops me a DM just to tell me they appreciated a comment or got a giggle from my profile. Its like a stranger beaming a sunny smile and making a happy, positive comment as they pass you on the street. Makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside.

I understand where you're coming from with the apprehension, but I suspect the people who post in the forums are not the same people who DM 'hey, you're hot. DTF?' 25 times a day.
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mobydick4000
19 days ago
There is no harm in reaching out with a direct message. I would be clear in the first sentences what the purpose of the message is to prevent any confusion, especially from a shared account.

In terms of the purpose of not seeking sex, I would again declare this. You may have people choose to not reply for various reasons, so I also wouldn't take no response to heart either.

As others have indicated, it's nice to receive a thoughtful message of appreciation or a sincere question about the community lifestyle, especially in recognition of a forum post or comment.
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Ex007
18 days ago
Oh 💯 yes. I've made quite a few friends over the years from the forums. Most I've never met as the drift in and out. The forums are such an introvert's space, this is where we find our people. 🥰
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missedbythatmuch
18 days ago
Being over 60 I seem to have fallen off the radar for most ladies, with the exception of those looking for sugar daddies. I have a lot more to offer other than money and find the concept of being a sugar daddy so cold that its almost objectionable. I want some connection or chemistry with any prospective lover and good, sexy, interesting conversation is the best way to get that vibe going. Happy to chat! lol
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Sp_iceNtheFriend
17 days ago
To send a positive response to another with zero expectations is never a bad thing. That one interaction may brighten their day, re enforce a positive attitude or even give them the courage to explore a little bit further into their curiosity. The effect it can have shouldn’t be underestimated especially when it comes without conditions or expectations.
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Jait71
14 days ago
Evening Bri - great question! Its a bit of a tricky one though - simply because we men aren't all alike...🤷‍♂️
Some men love the chat - making an intellectual connection with someone is never time wasted in my book!! But there are certainly guys out that are only interested in having a sexual connection...
Which is fine - as long as they are upfront & honest about it...
If that makes sense?
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BlueEyesTradie
9 days ago
I enjoy the social side of the pie as much as I enjoy the physical activity.
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