M38
To all my singles mates
October 26 2025
Cheers
Comments
BarberBoss1981
7 months ago
Its very disappointing...like what are they even doing here if they dont want to actually meet?
MsSuperFoxy
7 months ago
WHOOOA! Hang on there buck.
What are you doing to make them disappear?
It is not hard on others, if you are not accountable for your own actions.
The main reason people ghost is because the other has turn them off. If that's the case, they dont owe you anything, especially if said people have not met. Always have a Plan B. If you don't that's on you.
Your profile doesn't even state the couples profile name you go by as a "play couple", nor does your profile redirect to said couple profile.
Take feedback as you wish but you certainly don't get to decide who can be on this site or not. Because that's not for you to decide.
Ms Foxy
RHP User
7 months ago
You seem surprised that some people in life are flakey?
Some couples and women are as unreliable as some guys. Other couples and women are as reliable as other guys.
And to have a guy suddenly extol some virtuous advice because he’s now looking as part of a couple…
Is any part of our existence free from unreliable persons? No. Usually we work this out at some point in our adult life.RHP User
7 months ago
Communication is the key 🔑
If you don’t show up, don’t ask for another chance!
Flirty2020
7 months ago
Yes, it is quite true, that it is the few “single” males on here, who by their behaviour, give a bad name to all “single” males.
Akin to a few rotten apples, in the barrel, spoiling all the rest.
We have witnessed appalling & disrespectful behaviour in the chat rooms, towards females /couples. If the other nice males, present at the time, would “call out” and educate the disrespectful ones, perhaps things may improve?
Sadly nothing is done, and the result is that we tend to now tar them all with the same brush.
Perhaps it’s ratio thing, and desperation sets in ? Perhaps it’s an entitlement thing and the belief that because this is a “swingers site” that entitled & disrespectful behaviour is acceptable?
Back on topic, over 97% of “single “ males that have expressed a desire to meet us, have never turned up.
Our default expectation is that they won’t turn up.
If anyone now wants to meet us, for a drink, it needs to happen on a night that we are planning to go out. At a location of our choice. They need to fit into our schedule. That way if they don’t turn up (and having a default expectation that they won’t) we have fun together regardless.
Pink_Charmeleon
7 months ago
I really struggle with the no-shows. I’m quite socially awkward so I have to syke myself up for a meet. It’s kinda emotionally taxing when they don’t show. So I just don’t plan many. Which is a shame.
Giff18
7 months ago
I have experienced a 50% no show rate in the last year. I'm always courteous and happy to drive across town to meet at her prefered Cafe or bar yet its still the same outcome. Frustrating but what can you do?
Pink_Charmeleon
7 months ago
Maybe read the validations too. It takes time to build them up, but everyone should leave one if the person they meet is legitimate. It helps people navigate better
Anoncouple
7 months ago
I dunno, we're new and sometimes we have gone to take the plunge with another couple and f pulls out. Everyone is on their journey
Brisbloke4006
7 months ago
Agree 100 percent WildestDream! I have had a couple profile previously too and was astounded at the amount of no shows and ghosting even after a meet had been arranged.
A lot of keypad studs and guys who lie about their relationship status I suspect. In any case it’s not hard to sent a quick message to say sorry can’t make it for whatever reason.
So yes it does make it hard for the decent, reliable single guys to find a date and even break into the scene.
newyboy70
7 months ago
No accountability as no consequences.
Melbtogc
7 months ago
Free tonight, Gold Coast. Won’t waste a couples time 😉
Gentlemanplan
7 months ago
Yes - I like a solution :) What do you think, a onboarding mini course on RHP for certain men to improve consistency when initially joining RHP?
RHP User
7 months ago
True
Manofthemidnight
7 months ago
Any male with a half a brain knows better than pay steep fees for the ultra slim pickings on here.
RHP User
7 months ago
You are correct.
For us that do show up, it tars us with the same brush.
It’s hard enough to find fun as a guy these days and why some don’t show up is beyond me.
MrandMrs
6 months ago
Not surprised at all. Have seen it all in the last 7 years since we have been in this lifestyle.
Benny6986
6 months ago
Honesty and communication are first and foremost. I find those that emphasize that they are brutally honest are usually the ones that aren’t. I still find it hard to commit to the belief that someone is being honest after a couple of burns from my younger days on another site. Not from the travel or wasted time, but from the genuine concern that something may have happened (especially when connecting with someone who previously spoke about health or family issues). Then again maybe it doesn’t pay to excessively penpal or trauma bond before meeting 😅🤦🏽♂️
RHP User
6 months ago
@wildestdream it’s not just couples this happens to. As a single bloke I get messed about all the with cancellations or people suddenly just ghosting or ignoring messages after having good conversations. This is from couples and singles.
Toydoll
6 months ago
Ghosting on a planned meet is devastating and I don’t understand why singles guys do it - probably because I am not one 😛 It would make things harder for the genuine spunks for sure 🌷 As a single female and an adventurous sub, I have learned to be cautious and have told myself it’s ok to back out at any time. It’s what allows me to be able to loose my mind with, well, a stranger, until things work out well. (Maybe dom females don’t have this issue 🤣). Of course I’d never agree to meet if I did not fully 100% intend to but just thought I’d add I do have to keep that in the back of my mind for safety. Actually I driven long distances for meets 😘 I’ve also been ghosted on receiving validations except once 😂 I guess if I don’t expect to get a validation (even when I ask politely, do the work etc 😂) then I’m not disappointed if I do not receive one. And I concede being ghosted on a play date would be more annoying then not getting a review 🤭
TwotoTango2025
5 months ago
Stick to the clubs, you’ll be a lot happier, trust me 😉 😂
Chico36
5 months ago
No expectations, no disappointments...from me ..so if your chatting with me & for some odd reason you ghost me well I couldn't be bothered I'm sure there are other guys that would wanna hook up with me ...third year into this app ..just relax and go with the flow ...I have been ghosted, blocked too as a female , , but I don't let it get to my head ...
I just relax & go with the flow ..It is what it is 🤷
rewstill244
4 months ago
Message me x
BigG79
3 months ago
Hit me up I’d love to explore with you
DomNdarling
3 months ago
That is very unlucky and yeah it is disappointing but i guess keep it open to another try. Things do jump at us a bit.
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