M52
Threesome Problems
September 19 2024
Context: the 2 playing are Fuck Buddies, they meet about once a month.
The 3rd is the spouse of one of them. And is included once every 6 months, when schedules align.
After waiting downstairs for 2hrs, the 3rd left and the threesome didn't happen. Were they being impatient? No timelines were discussed prior.
Comments
CallMeV
2 years ago
It depends on people but "waiting" always kills the mood.
Ourmalibu
2 years ago
2hrs is a long time to wait for something you’re waiting for!!
Why did they have to wait?
RHP User
2 years ago
I have no idea. I suggest you ask them
NeoAndTrin
2 years ago
I think 2 hours is a bit rough yes. Especially if they weren't even allowed to at least watch.
gazpacho
2 years ago
Yeah, that’s not a threesome. That’s cuck
Andrea_Sydney
2 years ago
You didn’t explain what the dynamics are, is the spouse a cuck and making them wait is part of the game? If that’s the case, don’t forget that in any scenario where there is a control/sub dynamic, it’s part of the controller’s task to tune in with the controlled to ultimately create the game for them that they desire. It sounds to me like this failed. Maybe it needs to be discussed in more detail what the spouse wants and how he wants to be controlled/included in the play. There probably should be a way to check in with them to see how they are going under the control. Any slight change in mood needs to be picked up on and reacted to. Seems there was no contact or vision and it wasn’t possible to gauge the spouse’s mood in this. If the control was the game, it might have been hotter to for example create an audible connection, such as phone on speaker with them listening. Then he could have been included. For example by dirty talk towards him, complimenting her towards him, telling him what is happening, what he is missing, etc
Just simply sitting in a waiting room wouldn’t be sexy.RHP User
2 years ago
Yes 2 hours is definitely too long to have to wait. Sounds like the 2 fuck buddies are really not that into the 3 some idea with said partner and maybe doing it to appease said third wheel.
Let them in from the get go or don’t involve them
Introvertedfun
2 years ago
Absolutely if you were intended to be included then you should be included from the beginning not waiting downstairs to possibly be thrown some scraps once their fun was had
FeistyFatty
2 years ago
Yeah that scenario sound's really awful for the third. I wouldn't have waited more than 10mins before i skiddadled.... A threesome isn't worth that uncomfortable wait.
Inflation
2 years ago
Likely the couple having fun upstairs forget all about the 3rd in the waiting room...lol
KingQueenTease
2 years ago
Think it’s a little long personally….i wouldn’t like to have been the 3rd person missing out on all the fun. Why couldn’t you play all at the same time?
RHP User
2 years ago
Was the wait some form of kink thing? Like did the waiter know that they were meant to wait while the couple played? And were the couple getting off knowing there was someone waiting to join?
2 hours is a long time to wait for anything. Why didn’t they join in or go earlier?
Note I have adhd so can’t wait 2mins so I appreciate some people can actually wait but still…Alex_Lover
2 years ago
UPDATE: Hey everyone, thanks for the lovely, thoughtful replies, so much appreciated.
Yes I - Alex was the 3rd. Margo and her FWB were upstairs.
Happened yesterday, was difficult. Lots of tense discussions, lots of raw openness afterwards, and we're reconnected, back in a good place 🥰
In Margo's defence, she saw the event as a typical solo play with her guy, plus a threesome thrown on the end.
I didn't see it that way at all, and we didn't communicate those different thoughts well or at all.
She had a hard time understanding how I felt about it, and why I left. As she intended there to be a hot threesome at the end, like we've had with this partner previously.
After reading all these replies, mirroring my feelings about it, she gets it ❤️
So thanks again.
- Alex.
Flirty2020
2 years ago
Even 15 minutes is too long a wait, in our opinion.
We would in any event never agree to such a scenario.RHP User
2 years ago
The closest thing to this that I’ve experienced is sitting in the waiting room at a GP clinic. I get pretty annoyed after about 30-40 minutes.
If it happens again, perhaps a selection of National Geographic and Woman’s Day magazines from the late 90’s could help to pass the time? 🤷♂️🤷♂️Sawadee
2 years ago
Waiting more than 15 - 20 minutes is in my opinion a passion killer... It's said our biggest sex organ is our brain and mine tells me if im not in the mix fairly soon ' what am l doing there in the first place...
How long can you expect someone to maintain their excitement level without feeling things starting to wain ?
No , no one should expect anyone to wait 2 hours.. You're either there ' or your not ?
boobsandbusted
2 years ago
For me ,I’d be at 30 minutes tops for waiting ,after that too too much time where self reflection ,self esteeem self assessment ,way to much time with self anything would step in and not be beneficial for anything ,or anyone ,all i was going to offer ,was maybe time stood still and they didn’t realise 2 hours went by at all ,o know once I got my butt kicked for what I thought was taking 5 minutes to come down from playing and left Mrs b with a non desired man friend at the time ,apparently it was 30 mins not 5 and till this day, I swear, I dont know where the other 25 mins disappeared to ,so if Margo says something along those lines ,trust me ,it can happen and there was no intent and prolly catching her head where the time went I know 12 years later and I still do ,lol
MsSuperFoxy
2 years ago
If a 3some is arranged and the 3rd is made to wait, that's rude as fuck. End of story!
Don't blame the 3rd for leaving. I would too, but I wouldn't wait frigging 2hrs. That's total stupidity.
Ms Foxy
nightingale8
2 years ago
Glad to hear you’ve patched things up. Hate to admit it but I would probably lose track of time and do something like that. Fair to say it’s way too long to wait. Two hours is enough to build up a good appetite! And stumbling in after a decent pub grub meal, say, is more likely to leave me ready for a good ol’ afternoon nap. This is especially so as often pre-play I’ve eaten something light and soupy… gotta stay hydrated 😉
RHP User
2 years ago
Remember that the length of time waited is linked to how much you want them included. It shouldn't be surprising to find that someone is pissed after being told 'we don't want you in here yet' for two hours. Although, the main concern is whether the third person would have been better off waiting; was the wait justified?
The issue isn't about 'how long'. It's about the message being sent. The spouse can join in only once every 6 months. I'd ask 'why ask them to wait', but maybe someone there already knows... and has good reason to be upset.
MrandMrsEss
2 years ago
This is a really interesting post and some great replies. On first read I was like "That's just not on" and my initial reaction is that is really selfish of both FWB. Now being honest I think I'd be the one to get distracted and be selfish and there would have been one pissed off little Ess.
What is great to hear is that you guys have a strong relationship and errors were seen and apologies made and things have been learned. Isn't it great after so long we can still stuff up and still learn and still grow in a relationship. I have been talking with MrsS about this lately, she is a hesitant one so things happen slowly but I love that we always have unknowns to look forward to.
I really enjoy hearing about Margo and her Man's experiences, such a lovely ride xx
touchbase
2 years ago
Alex such a great read thanks for sharing and also elaborating on issue as original post leaves more questions. Reading that made me slightly cross for you😄. But all good calmed down now😄. Lots of great comments came from everyone.
richieandlinda
2 years ago
Yes I would be annoyed waiting that long, it would be upsetting too if you could hear them having their fun while you’re waiting. X
SydFembino
2 years ago
I would say yes, a threesome should be a time where you all have fun and enjoy each other. The first problem is the idea of one person needing to wait like they come second compared to the other. The other problem is that the third was just tucked away downstairs waiting.
Its not a big problem if you discuss it but I def understand the 3rds feelings. Communication is super important
seekandplay
2 years ago
Enough said here in this thread already, but I suppose the name threesome is a dead giveaway of what should be happening… the three of you. Not…. 2…
2 minutes is too long to wait, let alone 2 hours. Glad you’ve been able to talk it out though.RHP User
2 years ago
Not sure what your dynamic was but kept someone waiting for 2 hours without checking or updating is very disrespectful especially if that person is your own spouse.
I’m really sorry you have to go through that experience
madotara69
2 years ago
Perhaps, …somethings can’t be told, somethings can only be shown
Just quietly..anyone who suggests things like ‘ fuck that, that’s fucked, fuck them I say so that’s what I would etc etc and a rule of a sort to say see!
Likely have none experience nor the temperament for any of it.
Tara goes off with the fairies often during threesomes and we have had moments where 2 hours feel like 15 mins
2 hours to me feels like a long time to be left out and intimacy is a thing and two hours lonely to Tara intimate with a fb has been a reckoning to better understand emotions that fire in the moments.
For Tara time felt short, just a few minutes with her recollection
No I’ll Intensions and blaming the fairies would be an unimaginable idea
Anyhow..
Mado
Mado Tara xx
ontheprowl
2 years ago
Way too long to wait. I can see why he left
ArtsyLusttty
2 years ago
That tells me that Margo is nothing but selfish herself by leaving you out of the threesome equation
madotara69
2 years ago
Alex.. maybe you could all agree for the threesome nights, no one left out as a rule of a sort and then you have the choice to come and go as you please, you can host, compliment or take off for a while and if Margo needs to keep her wits about time management responsibility and call the shots .. that may well need to trade off intimacy if the boyfriend isn’t empathetic.. ( I would in respects.. well etiquette I suppose ) anyhow I know with Tara it’s the intimacy that makes the magic and we have to work around that, I mean she can’t even control her legs so they fly about, the responsibility is on us with all the carry on so passionately mischievous she doesn’t careless “ do anything you want, I like it all” she says so we do..
I dunno maybe
SwingDaddyBris
2 years ago
If it was a game. Then it's fine.
If it was just people with a plan on a good night. Then no.Zeenasee
2 years ago
Personally I’d be annoyed waiting that long. Could affect someone’s confidence especially if not so confident already.
Too me, a threesome is all in the room even if only 2 are participating. The third will be having their own pleasure watching.
Hope all worked out in the end :)
Gentlelovers
2 years ago
That's ridiculous 2 hours?Actually I would go as far as saying that was very rude of you two.
RHP User
2 years ago
I don’t have that kind of attention span to be sitting doing bugger all for a couple of hours.
I’d have been cutting holes in watermelons after 20 minutes.RHP User
2 years ago
It was obviously too long for that person.
sandv
2 years ago
sounds like she is being taken care of very well.......best to let them be
Extraman1
2 years ago
Waitng is an insult and should not happen
SpicyPeaches
2 years ago
If you’re meeting for a threesome, it’s a threesome. If someone is excluded then it’s a twosome and not fair on number 3. You wouldn’t invite someone to a party and have them wait outside for two hours while everybody is dancing, eating and making merry inside.
Perhaps reconnections and threesomes need to happen separately on seperate nights?
And doesn’t sound like communication is working for all.
HumbleDesires
2 years ago
Yeah, I would have been done after 20mins. Sorry, incredibly selfish, particularly if a spouse, unless otherwise arranged prior. That actually reeks of intentionally causing hurt.
shavedcouple333
2 years ago
Yes 2 hrs is way too Long
TheTwoYouSeek
a year ago
Unless its role play, that's not acceptable on any level. "Time to reconnect" is just a way of saying we don't want you here. That would be the end of my approval of solo play for the partner. There's clearly little to no respect in the relationship.
DonnaBrett
a year ago
It sounds like the 3rd person is close to being shown the out door permanently. If a threesome is the plan, everyone should be included from the start.
RHP User
a year ago
if you have to ask. its dead already dude. get the fuck outta here.
diddlers
a year ago
Sit and watch, be patient and enjoy the moment 😉
FelixHenry
a year ago
It sounds like there was a lack of communication about expectations, which might have led to frustration for the third person. Waiting downstairs for two hours without being included could understandably feel like being left out or undervalued, especially if no timeline was agreed upon beforehand.
To avoid such situations in the future, it’s important to have a clear conversation before meeting. Discuss boundaries, timelines, and how everyone’s comfort will be prioritized. A threesome requires equal participation and respect for everyone involved. If the 3rd left, it might not have been impatience but rather a sense of feeling excluded. Clear communication next time could make the experience more enjoyable for all.
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