M59
Problems cumming
April 26 2025
But feel like I really let my partner down and feel guilty
I know she really wants me to cum
I really just prefer please her and absolutely it when that's all she wants I just wondering if there's other guys out there suffering the same problem and how do they deal with it?
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RHP User
a year ago
dont let it get the better of you, just relax and let nature take its course, maybe a prolong foreplay would assist, the more you think of this so called problem the les chance you have f relaxing. Good luck
Blueflamingo
a year ago
You are definitely not the only guy with this problem. I've met a few who also struggle with cumming but still enjoy the sensation.
Most likely in your head, which probably don't help much. But try not to focus on it and then it may cum when you least expect it 😉
If you masturbate a lot, stop, or definitely try to ease back on it.
I find that guys who wank a lot get used to their own hand, so when having sex they can't cum unless they do it themselves.
Wank less, have more sex with others and be patient with yourself. Build it up with a lot of foreplay, teasing, sensual massage and kissing.
Don't forget to be open with your partner so they understand where you are at. That will help you in the situation as well that you have communicated this beforehand.
Good luck
Ex007
a year ago
This can be caused by a few things.
1.Medication
2. Excessive masturbation with a well established technique making it difficult to cum in other circumstances.
3. Is usually connected to 2 excessive porn consumption.
4. Can also correlate to aging.
Stop 2 & 3 and see if anything changes. If nat see a Dr if you are on any frequent medication.
NeoAndTrin
a year ago
I have the same thing but I don't see it as a problem, I treat it like a superpower. It actually what I've always wanted to be able to last ages and not cum.
But Trin also does want me to orgasm as does your partner and that's natural. I just always say that I'm still having the best time and it makes me feel like a bit of a porn star. Prior to me she would have to make herself cum as a lot of her partners would always finish quickly.
I guess best advice is to not try and feel guilty about it and not view it as a problem if you are enjoying sex overall. And let your partner know it's not because of her that you don't cum half the time. You wouldn't get hard in the first place if it was because of her no doubt...
AussieKisser
a year ago
I had the same problem last couple of years and has happened with a few ladies on this site. I get really frustrated by it too. Sadly I think it may have put 1 off. Firstly I thought it was working out to much including sauna but then I slowed down.
Sawadee
a year ago
Problem is ' once you become anxious about it ' it only exaggerates things then it becomes mental as well...
Relax and go with the flow.. it doesnt matter if you cum or not.. If it feels good and your partner enjoys herself thats that really matters..
In a ideal world ' both men and women are expected to cum to show they have performed well.. good if it happens but not unusual if it doesnt.. ... just enjoy whats happening...
cutekezzy
a year ago
Tantric sex talks about the internalised orgasm where ejaculation is not the goal but rather the human connection
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