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Pandoras Box

July 30 2025

This isn’t a euphemism.

It’s an inquiry to those who had their moment. That moment when something happened, either planned or unexpected, which opened their eyes to a new sexual passion.

It could have been an act, a feeling, a connection, a kink or a euphoria over something you felt you’d never be into.

If you’re feeling brave enough, what was it and as a result what do you now highly rate as an avenue of exploration or sexual passion?

Mine was breath play. Unexpectedly, during a quite vanilla but very connected play, my partner asked me to choke her. Hesitantly, I began and as she looked up at me I felt the power and responsibility she’d entrusted in me engulf me.

From that moment I found a kink I could not do without.

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NeoAndTrin
10 months ago
Mine is kinda the same but not.

The thought of choking my partner has and probably always will horrify me and give me anxiety. But I have learnt to just rest my hands around Trins neck which she and I both enjoy during sex. There's barely any pressure and it's more just to keep her eyes locked on me when she's on top.

Ive heard its the lack of oxygen which heightens the orgasm is the main attraction. I'd actually found during my own self pleasure many years ago that if you hold your breath and try to hold off the orgasm when you know you are about to cum it made my orgasms more powerful so I wonder if that's the same experience chokers have. 🤔
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seekandplay
10 months ago
I remember the exact moment everything changed for me. A curiosity I had for a very long time, but growing up in a purity culture always made me think it was wrong.

Not trusting any strange man from the internet claiming to be a Dom, I paid for a professional Sir at an established and registered venue. A happy, silent tear fell down my cheek through the experience as it was something my body had ever experienced - that’s when I knew elements of BDSM was something I needed to explore more and has unlocked a whole new world for me.

The day after, I went down many rabbit holes and found RHP - my world has never been the same in the best possible way.
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MrandMrsEss
10 months ago
Ah nice post OP, need more of these interesting discussions.
I guess my first box was when 19 I had a spontaneously occurring 3some with a gf and her friend, of course that set a desire I have found near impossible to move past.
But, I always love a butt! I met MrsS, someone I thought would never delve into such things and suddenly I was ok with putting those desires to bed. Another but, then she comes to me wanting to explore her sexuality like she has never done before. This has resulted in a really nice decade where we jumped in, found it way too much too soon for her so really slowed down and we make the most delicious millimetre advances each year.
In the last year though something has changed in me that surprises me, after an issue with an overly clingy fwb we re-centred on each other and now I joke she has put some kind of juju on me as I am finding my desires are laser focused on her and her alone. There’s a whole lot of psychology to delve into about why but it’s a change I never thought would happen and it’s surprisingly hot for me.
I also love that she comes to me with things, like “please hold my throat” or “please spank me with this”. I used to be the one who had to introduce things but now it’s quite lovely to sit back and wait for her next request.
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Fuckmywifexxx
10 months ago
Breath play is intensely dangerous when done by a novice and any woman who trusts a stranger in a private environment is lacking good judgement.

Additionaly there are "numerous other risks, including long-term changes in the brainexternal link, opens in a new tab that can occur whether the person being choked remains conscious, as well as miscarriage⁠, thyroid injuries and short-term impacts including vomiting and loss of bowel control.” Sexual choking also poses risks of external link, opens in a new tab larynx (the voice box, just above the trachea) and hyoid (one of the delicate bones of the neck) damage, long-term breathing problems due to aspiration, hematoma, and cardiac arrest".

I really recommend people google

Frequent and Recent Non-fatal Strangulation/Choking During Sex and Its Association With fMRI Activation During Working Memory Tasks

The gist of which is that you literally kill brain cells everytime...
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Blueflamingo
10 months ago
When I went to a strip club many moons ago and discovered I was into women. That was my opening into swinging and the world of rhp, I've not looked back ever since.
A lot has happened since then and I have moved in many different directions, but women was my first discovery.
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TheMinx
10 months ago
🍑 play in particular rimming.
I get so turned on when my cheeks are smooshed between a 🔥 🍑 and every flick of my tounge drives them closer to orgasm.
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Andrea_Sydney
10 months ago
I didn’t have a single moment like that. More of a progression of several discoveries that showed me my intense reactions to non-vanilla components in play. A slow burner discovery journey with my partner which has been intensely delicious.
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Felicitous
10 months ago
Oh goodness I always thought 'breath play' was more literal 😂🤦🏻‍♀️
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wanderlustQLD
10 months ago
TLDR? ➡️ It's watersports bc of the intimacy and absence of degredation that I thought it involved.

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I had never entertained watersports really... a few years ago, if you had asked me I would have said it's a "hard limit" 🙅🏽‍♀️ and I think I'm someone who doesn't have many...

For the most part they are things I absolutely know I don't like, spitting in all its forms, Daddy talk and every facet of degradation and humiliation.

I thought the old Golden Shower was a form of degradation and without even reflecting on it as a kink and a potential source of pleasure, I judged that book by it's cover and had always said no deal.

Then someone, who is now my favourite person ☺️ asked me if I was into it and I flat out said no way without even missing a beat. But then I stopped and asked myself "why?" I asked them to tell me what it was all about, what it meant to them and why? I was surprised to find degradation wasn't part of the convo at all... 🤔

I was quite intrigued to learn (for that person) that the key drivers were factored around intimacy, physical sensation and sense of deviance or risquè status 🔥 Those things are hot AF to me!

You don't have to bait that line too well for me to bite! 🎣 Nek minit I'm 🙋🏽‍♀️ yes please, I'll try it.

It's a two way street, however, so I don't waffle on forever - for me, being on the receiving end, I like the warm sensation, the tactile experience. I like pushing the boundaries of kink in the pursuit of pleasure. I like the vulnerability and intimacy of it 😮 and to that end, it's not something I'd indulge in with someone I wasn't in a trusting, respectful relationship with.

In a surprising turn of events, I like to receive it as an act of submission which in no way reflects any sense of degradation, more a gifting of control and the permission to indulge one's self almost however they please.

I like being on my knees, I like being restrained at the same time, being vulnerable 🪢 I can't say I am entertaining any desire to drink pee or have it in my mouth right now, but I like having it on me - or in me.

Though it's still a reasonably new and uncommon experience, it's still vividly in my memory and involved a whole new sensation of fullness and warmth, unlike what I could have imagined. I really liked it. It was unexpectedly pleasureable 🤩🎉 and a "first", in a world where theres not many "firsts" left to experience.

Having posted a long discussion about this on a kink site, I was really surprised how popular it is!
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ShySubmissive
7 months ago
There's just something thrilling about it when a man puts his hand around your neck its such a turn on for me 🥵
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