M48
Opening lines in a new message
June 18 2025
1. Good opening line
2. How to up the anti when chatting
3. Is there a hard and fast rule of how long you wait to ask to meet?
Thanks in advance
Comments
Ex007
a year ago
I would suggest reading their full profile in full and then writing what comes to you.
If you find yourself too invested in worrying about what to type or if you are going to make a mistake.
That may mean it's time for some self-reflection and development in the emotional intelligence space.
NeoAndTrin
a year ago
In before someone uses "entitled" and or "lazy".
touchbase
a year ago
1. Let's smash (or similar romantic wording)
2. tell them you are clean and have all your teeth
3. push for free now can I come to yours, the sooner the better.
Apples_N_Oranges
a year ago
Keep it simple -
‘Hi . . . . , your profile tickled my fancy, so I thought I would say hello. I was wondering if you would like to chat and see where it leads.’
Or possibly add a some wit -
‘Hi, I am Onthelookout for single females and couples, your profile caught my attention so I thought I would send you a message and see where it leads.’
As far as ‘hard and fast rules’ on asking to meet, who knows! We don’t usually ask ‘when can we meet’. We have had more success with seeing how the chat progresses, get an understanding of how they like to meet/play, see if they are interested in any clubs or upcoming events and come up with suggestions for dates and locations. If they are genuinely interested they will work with you to organise a meet. You might have to come up with your own rule/s based on your experiences, change up the timing of asking to meet and see what works/doesn’t work.
We have tried different ways of engaging with people/starting chats on here, such as keeping it simple, using a long/descriptive message to start, referencing info/things in their profile or things we have in common etc. We eventually came to the conclusion that if they are unsure of/don’t like what they see, the chat usually fizzles.
MsSuperFoxy
a year ago
If a profile "tickles your fancy", you tell them why and what has attracted you. Don't come across as sleezy or creepy or use pet names, because you will be ignored.
Ms Foxy
seekandplay
a year ago
The best worst intro I’ve had is: ‘I want to make you fat and put a baby inside of you’.
So, anything other than that is a really good start 👌🏻
LiveLifeNow28
a year ago
You don't need an opening line, you're not in a bar. From personal experience I don't have time to respond to opening lines and those who make no effort at all, especially those that go something like, 'love ya titts', 'hi' or 'I can help'.
If you want to open up a conversation, read the person's profile carefully and write a few lines about how your interests align. Give the person some information about yourself so they can decide if they want to keep talking to you. Not an essay, it becomes obvious when someone has a standard opening message they copy and paste to everyone. I would also think its important to ask if the person enjoys sexy talk in messages before you start to "up the anti" as you say as it can be a bit off putting to do this early on in the conversation or if the person does not enjoy it. In terms of meeting, the person you're speaking to may appreciate you asking them what they are comfortable with. It's respectful and lets you know their preferences before you make your own suggestions although I would think it appropriate for you to share how you usually go about meeting up with people as well. People often say they're not into sending endless messages before meeting for example. For me, anyone who messages me with 'I'm free tonight' when we haven't even spoken is ignored or blocked. I hope this helps!
nightingale8
a year ago
There won’t be one type of woman on here so I’m sure you’ll have lots of different advice.
Reality for me when I’ve been looking - it depends on my mood what I respond to. Sometimes I’m after substance, other times I’m after something specific (or just plain randy lol) and few words is fine.
Rule of thumb, be forward with your intentions but always put her in control to choose.
Flirty2020
a year ago
Start by reading the profile from start to finish.
Take a few minutes to think about what you read, whilst you formulate that important “first message”.
Read the profile wording one more time and then start with your message.
Be yourself. Introduce yourself and acknowledge that you have read the recipients profile. Chat briefly about yourself, your likes and outlook on life.
Don’t be pushy. Leave it up to the other party to respond or not.
Respect, Politeness & Patience goes a long way …. As opposed to a pushy, lazy and entitled approach.
Notice_Me
a year ago
Hi, interested in the usual ... black mass orgies sacrifice, general diabolical shit 👿🫶, demon summoning 🕯️👻, astral projection and dolphin training. You too... let's play.
if you can't figure out how to make her laugh while asking to fvck, just move alongGB6174
a year ago
We loathe the 'Hey, one worders and the 'So What Are You Loooking For'?
Just be you, and most of all be honest! Nothing worse than a guy who puts "straight" on his profile, but then tells you that he's Bi... What else has he missed out?
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