M45

Newly single

March 02 2026

Do women find newly single guys as a positive or a negative? I know there are a lot of different scenarios but just in general?? Do you think they like a guy new to the market or more concerned he's still hooked on his ex.....

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Firejuggler
3 months ago
From my experience probably not, but it also depends on if you are looking for a relationship or a casual hookup. A lot of guys getting out of a relationship are looking for someone to ease the pain or provide a distraction. Just figure out what you are after, be honest with who you are talking to, and don't be upset if that doesn't work for them.

Also if you are coming out of a relationship, nothing wrong with doing some counselling to help you get through it. Works a lot better than sleeping around and looking for that dopamine hit from sex.
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MsSuperFoxy
3 months ago
Newly single is fine.
The problem is weither one has their shit together or not.

Most people don’t want to step into someone else’s unfinished relationship drama or to inherit the emotional cleanup from the previous relationship.
If one wants to vent/debrief about the ex, therapy exists.
I’m not a free counsellor.

Ms Foxy
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nightingale8
3 months ago
Negative

I find it a bit strange that some men lead with that on their profile. Like, why is the guy’s relationship ending a reason for me to meet? It just flags potential emotional labour, lack of sexual experience, lack of dating etiquette and aftercare, and seemingly lack of awareness on how to court ladies in the first place. The whole “I just want to f*ck around until I’m ready to settle down again” also happens too, which is fine but don’t sell that to me. I’m not a ‘low value’ card destined for the discard pile. Anyway, I’m writing this only because so few men take the time to read the forums. It’s something I’d usually keep to myself 😜
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 months ago
Newly separated = fine

Living separated = extra messy
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Restlessgirl46
3 months ago
Ha ha yes code for “be prepared for be messed around “
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Blueflamingo
3 months ago
To me its neither here or there.
Availability and flexibility is more important to me.
Seperated 'but living with my ex because of the kids' is a red flag, no thx!
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selfless__lover
3 months ago
Well it depends whether you are talking dating here or in vanilla land.
It also depends on how long you were together and how recently single you are.
A guy who has just come out of a long term relationship and hasn't taken a good 6 months to assess what went wrong, taken time to rediscover themselves and be comfortable being single, is often viewed by women as someone just seeking a rebound either consciously or subconsciously.
I don't think it's ever looked at as a positive thing.
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MsSuperFoxy
3 months ago
I know a couple of couples that have separated, but live together.
My neighbours for one. Works for them.

Separations are not always toxic.
Sometimes couples remain under the same roof for practical reasons like, selling property, finances or maintaining routine for their children.
It might look unusual from the outside, but sometimes it’s simply two adults being matured and handling a transition as responsibly as they can.

Ms Foxy
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RHP User
3 months ago
I don't think anyone should make judgement on anyone else! If you hit it off and have a connection should not matter what situation you went through in the past! Past can't be changed, Now is happening so make changes, Future is yet to happen so there's time for change!
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MsPeachass
2 months ago
I say thank you for our gain honestly l.
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RHP User
2 months ago
Negative. Because he’s just trying to get his dick wet.
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