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My observations

June 12 2025

I have very recently gone from a couples profile, to a single woman.

I've been on the forum alot over the years, and seen many posts asking why they (mainly men) don't seem to get a response

I log on a few times a day, each time 50-100 new inbox messages, which is quite overwhelming. Each one expects a response. I don't actually think I would be able to answer each and still function in the real world.

A few tips to those wanting a conversation to start with others... up to you if you are interested or not..

78% of all messages are "hi" , "great tits" or "feel like a chat" not very inventive and not much of a conversation starter. -I am aware my profile pic is simply my boobs, so accept I am to blame somewhat.

I've had albums opened and sent through, without even a response. Maybe wait to see if the person wants to see things before sending?

I wonder how much luck one would get straight away sending such things?

The few I have engaged in conversation with over the last couple of days have been really fun. Thank you

I do wonder about if these are real humans, has anyone encountered bots or AI with rhp?

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nightingale8
a year ago
Just a thought, if every one of those 50-100 messages were well thought out, funny, entertaining, considerate, etc wouldn’t that make it harder not easier to choose who to connect with? All this advice to men to ‘stand out’ would become null and void as it would hence have the effect of actually making men ‘blend in’ to each other. From the woman’s perspective.

I think it’s a current societal myth we accept that competition lies at the heart of all human interaction. And systems design seems to mirror or even amplify this. Eg RHP is all about getting noticed amongst the crowd. This is what systems designers keep building AI to do more of.
But why does no one ask why is there such a disparity in ratios or men vs women on here and all dating sites, without resorting to sexist stereotypes and sweeping assumptions. If AI can solve that then that would be an actually useful way to use it.

Late night musings!
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MrandMrsEss
a year ago
MrsS tried a single profile and opened it to looking for men. The daily messaging was insane and she couldn’t keep up. I mostly manage this profile and even though our wordy profile seems to keep numbers down I still often lose contact with people as due to location and distances meeting takes planning and things just seem to wane in the mean time.
From many conversations in chat men women and couples all say it’s really hard to connect with people online and even harder to actually meet those you do connect with.
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RHP User
a year ago
Yes they are just observations and by no means any kind of fact.
Never have I written a message that is not polite, thought out and genuine, with no hi's, abuse or outright nice tits wanna fuck.
Now if I were to give an honest account of responses to my messages it would be 1 reply to minimum 20 messages.
Never requested opening albums for if a lass is interested she will open them for you.
The problem isn't the messages sent. It is the vast majority of messages sent are full of crap so the women say.
So eventually messages just don't get checked unless the profile attached to the message is one that attracts a woman's attention.
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NeoAndTrin
a year ago
When I was on here as a single male, I put a lot of effort into my profile as I realised that it took considerable effort to write decent 10 openers a day.

It seemed like a better option to do that and then write something like: "Hello I liked your profile and I think you might like mine. Would you care to open a dialogue with me?"

That way they could potentially look at my profile and decide on whether to continue the conversation as opposed to having to come up with an opener that they might not engage with or find humourous.

How would you respond to such an opening message?
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ustogether72
a year ago
Interesting and honest perspective. With all first impressions, the first 10 words can make the difference between been seen as a grand majestic tree or a blade of grass in a field of mediocrity. As a single male, who visited your profile, it caught my eye and captured by my imagination. But I was left at a loss of how to not only gain your attention but insight interest in 10 words.. To be honest, I'm still crafting that first message. So any tips would be appreciated. 🤣
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Ex007
a year ago
I'm not sure if you know but you can restrict who can message you.

1. Change your age bracket
2. Only allow those who match what you're looking for to view your profile.

Many times this will solve your overrunning inbox
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equestrian
a year ago
If you want messages, then when people send you one it's polite to at least answer the message.....
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RHP User
a year ago
I think the main thing for me here is effort. It's not easy to.write a good profile but I did put a tonne of effort into mine. It's my first time using RHP - but am starting to think of going to another app.

My location is my location. It's my life and where I live. That's life. I've gotten a few messages now - I'm interested but your location might be an issue. Youre too far away. Um - well it seems there might be an expectation that I constantly travel or I'm expected to travel. It's weird. Most of the time - anything further than an initial message doesn't happen because of my location. Yeah - thanks for the chance. How do half of the people here expect anything to happen if they don't give something or someone a chance - or is it just a quick flick through - a maybe/almost message and then move on. I'm not interested in that.

Then there's the millions times a day I get asked - have Yiu blocked me because they can't see my profile due to my settings. I feel I'm on repeat.

In short - I gave rhp a chance but yeah think it's time to just have a break or move to another app altogether.

I don't feel a lot of positives about carrying on. Had some great conversations here though - met some interesting people and some very sick and twisted people here too. But it hasn't been a good place for my own self esteem or anyone else's I don't believe.

I don't fit into being a swinger or much of anything else people want and seek here. So I'm just not going to find anything very easily because I don't fit a lot of what people seek.
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RHP User
a year ago
I never give bland one word or short openers. I always put thought into it and try to be unique/fun/light hearted cheeky depending on the profile. Still never get responses 😅🫠
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RHP User
a year ago
This quite interesting, it's my first time on the forum in NZ have used it before in Australia. It's interesting to see that the comments of overwhelming inbox and few other brands remain the same
I hope to be able to connect and have a few great conversations but it def becomes challenging for many reasons
Wonder if there was a filter that could be designed to filter generic messages out.
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RHP User
a year ago
Maybe pay up membership and message them instead since you don't like their boring messages.. see how you go🤣🤣🤣
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RHP User
a year ago
Well, at least you have messages 🤣. I have none....may be one view in a month of my profile that it. You write a good message, getting accused of copy/paste, then I just stopped bothering putting an effort no one replies anyway....I wish I have 10 messages 🤣🤣🤣
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