M34
Its me or women’s treat mens like objects on this site.
February 26 2025
Women’s are to picky those days or ? Every one have no time to give to strangers people react like selfish. Someone can explain to me!
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boobsandbusted
a year ago
Oh I’m just going prop myself in a corner and chow down on some nice salted butter popcorn , 🍿
touchbase
a year ago
I don't think there is enough gigabytes in sites mainframe. Maybe you will have more luck if you take the time to grammar check messages before sending.
OpalRose
a year ago
Why respond to a hello when someone else has put more effort in?
We get dozens of messages a day. Impossible to respond to all but the best. Hey/hi/hello isn’t enough.
If we start just three convos a day that’s 20+ by the end of the week. 40 the next week. 100 a month.
BiPeggyGal
a year ago
Nom-nom-nom, let's just sit here and wait ....
Ourmalibu
a year ago
Do yourself a favour and search up previous posts like this, it’s been done to death. Hope you’ve got some thick skin 🫣😬
RHP User
a year ago
Well I shall start the popcorn eating comment.
I can say that if you are new to this place it can certainly feel that way and to be honest I would say many women here do.
They can talk all about how opening messages, photos and profile make the difference and sure they do to some extent. But I have been here on and off for over a dozen years and have not had that much luck.
But I understand the amount of men to women here and you either have to stand out in some way and that will come down to your profile. Or eventually connect with someone who relates to you.
Ot really is no different to real life, the more effort and gentlemanly effort you put in the more chance you have of responses.
Many will attest that sometimes you find connection and sometimes you don't.
Women cop some unbelievably crass messages here and on most sites so it can be risking ridiculous abuse just for saying no. And sadly times have not changed as we men still have to do the initiating 99% of the time
MsSuperFoxy
a year ago
I'll explain for the 10millionth time, on the exact same topic,.....Simple, it's your entitlement.
Ms Foxy
seekandplay
a year ago
We. Don’t. Owe. You. Anything.
Ex007
a year ago
Oh, Sandra’s been waiting for this one. And let’s be clear Sandra takes no shit.
Ah yes, allow me to introduce Sandra, Queen of Chaos, Destroyer of Gnomes, and Unapologetic Judge of Poor Behavior.
From Sandra
As a female possum with years of experience dodging unwanted advances from overly confident males (usually Gary, the bush turkey menace), I can tell you this: entitlement is not attractive.
You think you have it rough? Try being a possum just trying to live her best trash-raiding life, only to have every male within a 5km radius hump the nearest tree to get my attention. Do you think I entertain every uninvited grunt, sniff, or territorial display? Absolutely not.
Women don’t “treat men like objects.” They just have standards. And if you’re getting ghosted 100x times, the problem may not be women, it may be the approach.
If Gary strutted up to me demanding my attention without so much as offering a snack, I’d launch him straight into another dimension. Food for thought and no, you can’t have mine.
Sandra has spoken.
nightingale8
a year ago
Don’t take it heart if the ladies online don’t choose you. And certainly don’t then blame ladies if they don’t choose you.
Online isn’t real life.
Still baffles me when people keep assuming it is. The tech bros want you to believe itRHP User
a year ago
There are many many single guys on here. My suggestion, read the profile, don’t message people who say no single guys. Don’t just send a hey! Expect that single straight guys are barely swingers… generally just looking to be players/fuck boys. There are exceptions to this of course, there are many guys on here who can hold a conversation and are respectful. No one owes you a reply. Not replying is not ghosting!
Inforapenny5
a year ago
When I opened my single profile I had over 50 messages within days. Mostly from men and my profile says I'm looking for women and couples. 🤔. If you want attention don't tell me what you want to do to me. That's creepy coming from a stranger. Introduce yourself. Make me interested.
GypsyBella
a year ago
You get treated the way you treat others. Men treat women the same way. If you don't like it, perhaps you shouldnt be here. Women get SO many messages every day from thirsty men who think that just because we are on here that we OWE them sex. No we dont
RHP User
a year ago
You need thick skin mate. In saying that the ratio of women to men on this site is exaggerately favoured towards the women. They can be picky I suppose. A lot here wouldn't have that option in the real world because from what I've seen they are way below average.
OnlyLovers
a year ago
There's been a couple of times I've felt like a life support system for a cock, but I don't think that's the point he's trying to make 🤣
Magdalena
a year ago
Oh my god. The entitlement.
Do you have clear photos of yourself
Can I tell at all what you look like
Do I find you attractive
Is your bio completed.
Can I tell what you’re looking for and what your interests are.
is there compatibility to me in those things.
Does my profile says no (whatever) and you have (whatever) and still messaged me regardless
Did you even read my bio or just send a message to anyone in the vicinity hoping to get a response.
Did you just say hi with nothing else in the message.
Did you say something in your message that made me feel uncomfortable.
Is there something in your profile that’s a deal breaker.
Are you outside the age range.
Do you have a username that gives women the ick
Etc
Etc
Men outnumber women on here and get heaps of messages.
Men don’t all take rejection well so ignoring is better than politely declining and then either having the dude get nasty, send unsolicited dick pics or beg you to change your mind.
Being hot helps get profile views but isn’t essential. if the photos bio and message doesn’t click with the person then they aren’t going to respond.
And finally if your photo is of you on a motorcycle with a helmet on from 100m away, or a photo of a landscape with no person in it at all, or some other thing where it’s just vaguely human shaped blob in the distance, please have a think about what on earth about that photo would make someone in a hookup app want to talk to you.
Good luck out there everyone ☘️RHP User
a year ago
As a woman on here and my pictures probably don't help. But we get slammed by men on here. It's not because we're picky, I mean some of us might be. But try having 100s of messages and profiles to go through
Indro24
a year ago
Anybody that thinks they can judge a person simply from their pic and brief profile alone is as shallow as a bird bath. I've met some lovely people and the occasional bitter person whom I just leave out. Unfortunately the site is overrun by Incels, mummies boys and overweight men plus lots of men that hit me up for dic pics. Approached with a good sense of humour it's a fun site overall.
IndoGreekMan69
a year ago
Couldn’t agree more on that
No. One even have the courtesy to say that sorry we dont align or not similar interests…its the women who are always picky with outloudly asking only 8”+
Where as they never look at themselves and care even if they have bucket size whole to provide.
Never seen a man asking that only women with a tight p**sy can contact.
And yet women are the ones that block you for no reason at all
DomPleasure181
a year ago
I know I may get back lash for this.
Look I'm a single man with a love for kinky foreplay, likes exploring kinks and couples play MFM or FFM.
I take the time to read through peoples Bio, looking at their pictures and if they have a validation read that too.
Now I have sent many messages and also had either had no one open the message or not reply. But this just means that they are not interested in me at that point in time. Maybe one day they might be
Now have a look at their profile, look at the friends they have, read through the Bio. Then make a informed decision whether you would suit them or not.
Take time to write your Bio, take photos of yourself good ones and make an effort when sending your first message.
Or if you're just looking for a f#@k this is the wrong place for you. Most people here have a kink or two, three and plus plus they want to explore.
Well that's my thoughts anyway.
HotAppitite
a year ago
Alright , let me break it down for ya ...... Lover boy 😉 Now, don't take this personally or get your knickers in a knot. Over my honest opinion, my ramblings are purely based on My own personal experience here. The feedback you requested......might taste a little bit like a teaspoon of cement.
I stumbled in here accidentally after my life started resembling a post apocalyptic nightmare... Unfortunately, this saga continues., But like Elton John said, ......I'm still standing 🕺
I'm a dating site Rookie & Had 0 expectations when joining. I actually didn't think a single human would bother to read my profile let alone take the time to Try to strike up a conversation.
I believe it is different for men and women on these sites. Besides the obvious fact that the Scales are tipped much more heavily in favour of females. I'm under the impression that us woman folk don't pay a subscription, Unless initiating a conversation.
At a guess, I'd say I have been hanging around here, with you crazy.Weirdos for about 6 months ......I know right 😏..... pretty sure, i have not initiated a conversation with a single person that has not messaged me first. 🤷♀️ It's not just because I'm lazy or a chicken s***, I just don't need to.
Since I got here , my inbox of unread messages has constantly sat at approximately 350. 🤯
6 months on 🗓 And, exactly the same, it does not change. No matter how many people I respond to, how many ongoing conversations or chats I've had ,
That number reminds fairly constant.
Now keep in mind , you have seven days to respond..... If I'm busy, or I'm having a shitty week, I'm not gonna be sitting on a dating app, Holding my breath , waiting for the messages to roll in. Sometimes it's several days before. I regain the strength to Open the flood gate of messages again . Oh. And the fact that I am still receiving an endless number of, Hi, How's it going??()messages and a few of you cheeky fuckers still can't read & be sending me 🍆 paparazzi Pix 📸 or seedy AF messages......its highly likely im just going to, Avoid the phone for a few days.
Like many things in Life, The minority, spoil it for the majority 🤷♀️ It's not necessarily a You problem.
But in case, it is......Here are a few of the red flags I spotted along my journey . Pretty sure this has all been said......by every second comment above FFS...... If your profile picture is someone else's photoshopped, Abs, , A blurry ass silhouette or says you're 45 yrs old, but you're more like 65
Fix that shit! And if your profile says, I
Like pleasing , my partner & won't stop till asked...... Give yourself an upper cut.
Not sure what dodgy AI Bull shit is assisting you All with your description. But if it aint true, don't sang it, same goes with, Hight & relationship status. Don't BS Me Mr...... There's 350 other mother fuckers waiting , So stop wasting time.
And if you're still listening .....a piece of advice 🤔
I Would guesstimate That I have spoken to & viewed approximately 2000 profiles. & Been the recipient of just about every type of message you could possibly imagine .....oh yeah!
Didn't realise how naive I actually was. Have learned a thing or two 🤣
90% Of you, That have reached out to me have welcomed & appreciated My brutal honesty & blunt approah....... Congratulated Me for the fact that I have all my cards on the table,.
Which I honestly believe is the main reason i have received such an overwhelming response.
Maybe if you all took a leaf out of my
Book ,& go update your profiles a tad, you might have I better chance at succes.
Silverrose
a year ago
Its all you, as many men treat women no better than a blow up doll thats once unloaded into are quickly forgotten and pushed aside once used.
RHP User
a year ago
While on this topic ...
It's frankly disappointing to see so many profile with very little info / faceless photos.
Hypocrisy maybe a bridge too far, but the generic " people say I'm attractive,but you be the judge" et al give a man very little to work with.
Whenever I come across one of these sans effort profiles I move on : you've done me a favour.
Go cue up in with the hoards of vapid indifferent lazy sacks, I'm interested in the other end of the ruler.HotAppitite
a year ago
Your Welcome, SeekandPlay 😉 If you think that's good , you should check out my epic 3 stage Trilogy of a profile.......🤣 it's Gold ✨️
Since been here on RHP..... i have been stood up 3 times........been on a total of 0 dates, Not gone f****** dancing Once!
I have even been offered $10K for a date, which I respectfully declined.......
I had to be upfront with the guy 🤷♀️
As flattering as that is....... I can't get people to hang out with me for free 🤣🤣 He would have been getting ripped off big time 🤷♀️
Jaijai23
a year ago
I'm a bloke that stands by you only miss every shot you don't take so I try and chat with all members that I have liked even the ones from different states and I communicate the way there profile reads always including a little bit cheeky banter. What's frustrating though is the viewed message without any comment my opinion honesty is the best policy if I'm not your cup of tea tell me politely and I'll thank you greatly for your honesty and wish you all the best on your adventures. I'm absolutely fine being told I'm not what the others looking for but ladies a reply back yay or nay is all I'm asking I've complimented you with a like and effort to say hello and introduce myself all I ask is for an outcome so I can move in the right direction. 3 yrs I've been on the site and not one date yet. A shit load of stood up dates scheduled but not one follow through which sux! But hey I'm still enjoying the site one day I'll get blown away from an experience like no other I'm sure. Well fingers crossed anyway.
RHP User
a year ago
That’s because I’m into fin
Sparkx
a year ago
Maybe women are treating men how they have been treated their whole lives. lol
Jaijai23
a year ago
Maybe just a simple not interested automated reply if they read the message and don't reply within 24 hrs food for thought maybe?
RHP User
10 months ago
Women are not too picky. A lot of men are just too lazy and the crass, boring or low effort first intro messages they send out, coupled with a mostly empty profile do not inspire us to invest any time in formulating a reply. That might be why you hear crickets….
Kintsugi
10 months ago
As I'm of an older age, I've seen first hand in my 5 years being on this site. I believe that a lot of woman pick the sweet spot for men between 30-45. Its always the guys with 20 x validations and cocks over 8 inches in that range group that get the attention. You need to be 180 cm min , hot body, big dick, very attractive. Most woman are all chasing the same guys on here
RHP User
5 months ago
it must be the women!
jemimah
4 months ago
Its just you
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