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Is scintillating and intelligent conversation too much to ask for?
June 12 2025
It seems like you are heavily judged before even being given a chance. I think RHP needs to address this. I don't think it's the fault of RHP - the people of RHP make it what it is and this far it's not been a wonderful experience. It's not a slave for everyone. It's an elitist fan club. If you don't cut it you'll soon know.
There's no space for newcomers. At least it's what it felt like in my experience. Sadly with communities such as this which has the potential to be a strong community - they could be more inviting and welcoming for new comers and that could make all the difference here.
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RHP User
a year ago
In my experience I have found that entering chat while it is just about socialising and sex newbies don't get much of a say in there and mostly it is lost within the regular chatters.
I do think the chat should be used more correctly though as there is a social chat and a hot chat but all of the social conversation is on hot chat and the social chat rarely gets used.
As far as conversations go a newbie does generally find involvement in topical conversations there but topical and general conversation seems to be a rarity on chat.
It is why I love the forums as though it isn't conversation it is closer to any topical, interesting conversation than you ever find on chat
NeoAndTrin
a year ago
In before the first mueling quim uses the word entitled or lazy.
RHP User
a year ago
Interesting and seems profile no longer available ?
Two ways to look at this.
Yes chat, and forums, are dominated by some profiles who have been around for a while and know each other.
The other view is what we all understand. That the number of men way outnumber the number of women in this site. And that many couples are not looking for random men online either. So it is going to be frustrating for men to engage. And let’s face it many men struggle to engage sensibly. you only have to read comments from women - one recent.
It is what it isRHP User
a year ago
Don't wait for an invitation, just join in and keep at it 🤷🏼♀️
NeoAndTrin
a year ago
I don't know how RHP can address this as its individuals that are making the judgements as you point out. This place is fairly clicky as you've observed and people are on a much higher alert due to the high number of fakes floating around.
If you want to succeed here you need to persevere as others pointed out. There is no quick win situation unless you're built like a Greek god with the face of Brad Pitt.
seekandplay
a year ago
I think you answered your own question though… hot chat isn’t going to be overly deep and intelligent, is it? Maybe pop in your profile you’re a sapiosexual and perhaps you’ll find some more deeper conversation. Or put a forum topic in specifically looking for other sapiosexuals?
Brian_Breynolds
a year ago
You can post in here to have some intelligent dialogue. It doesn’t flow so well, because the comments take a couple of hours to upload.
But still, better than nothing I think?
FeistyFatty
a year ago
I'm sorry your experience here hasn't been totally positive so far. Its really not a place for a slow entry ..... jump in with everything you've got . We're not that scary lol ..... we can be at times admittedly. Us OGs can have a tendency of teaming up a bit which can be daunting for newbies. I always tend to gravitate to others like myself who aren't afraid of speaking THEIR truth, even when it's against the grain. So just be yourself and speak your truth x
Ex007
a year ago
FYI
You will not find an intelligent conversation in the chat rooms.
MrandMrsEss
a year ago
OP there are some truths to your post for sure. I’ve been in and out of here long enough to see chat rooms evolve and devolve.
I think there’s problem is a human nature one. Just like people don’t want to drive in the “slow lane” they don’t want to miss out on the “hot chat”. I’ve always said the slow lane should be called “the most excellent lane” then it would be the most populated leaving the fast lane free for the fast, but I digress!
The issue is compounded by FOMO, no one wants to miss out on a flash of flesh on cam and previously naughty cams were only allowed in hot chat. I could be wrong but it seems RHP has lifted this rule, which might help change things.
Other than that it just takes people to sit in the other rooms and wait for other people that are sick of the one room to come find them. This does happen and sometimes you’ll have a room of 5-20 people where most are actively contributing rather than 200 silent members ogling fleshy cams.RHP User
a year ago
I agree, speaking up only gets you banned, but believe me, chat used to be very different. No cliques, no egos, just people talking, having a laugh and having fun. A lot of social meets were arranged through the chatroom, it really was a friendly hub. We have had ladies meets before which were really successful, and strong friendships have been made. I've been on RHP for 12 years, and I've been lucky enough to meet a lot of wonderful people, but like most things in life, changes turn things around.
Sawadee
a year ago
I bet theres plenty of mirrors in the gym ?
RHP User
a year ago
I find the chats outside of the ‘Hot chat’ to be a lot more engaging- the chat room has become dull with the same dozen people commandeering the conversation every day, you can almost pre empt the next line.
Flirty2020
a year ago
All the wannabe armchair directors, when a female was on cam, killed it for us.
And then when we complained …..
PleasureCraft2
a year ago
Name the time and place - not in doubt. 😜😜💋💋
loveYOURpleasure
a year ago
I wish I came here with some silver bullet of insight but I don’t.
All I can say is that I’m sorry that it hasn’t been a positive experience for you; as a long time member I think it’s pretty common to experience a range of feelings towards the site and community.
I can say that I have had (and have) some very positive let’s call them intellectual for arguments sake friendships and connections develop through here and principally through chat. It can happen.
At the end of the day you can only be you, and so long as that’s not hurting anyone (not the same thing as people feeling hurt) that will hopefully help likeminded people find you and vice versa.
It can definitely get a bit hectic in there, with plenty of conversations that require inside knowledge. It can be hard to break in if you’re a bit of an introvert, or if you apply too much of a ‘in person’ approach to manners. If you want to talk about why the sky appears blue just put it out there. If people don’t like it because ‘this is meant to be hot chat’ then they can block you. The chat is made by the users who use it ultimately.
Wishing you wellRHP User
a year ago
I've been here for over a year , although I have had interactions on hot chat it has been very limited. Seems couples singke women and only those guys that cut it tend to get along . As a single on this site I feel very isolated, I'm genuine in my approach, never rude and only send content that's in context with chat or messages. But it seems that single guys my age don't even register on thw radar , shame really. But oh well you get that.
madotara69
a year ago
We go into the chat rooms as a couple, because of that, firstly we would see a plethora of profiles viewing our profile, lots of blokes whispering to inform us they have a lawnmower and some sort of a question in the hopes our answer involved the bloke. We replied to some characters, the ones that tickled Tara’s fancy where generally fun and cheeky pressed her buttons, but I did the typing and trying to keep up with all the whispers and who whispered what and what not to confuse one for another and other ones one after the other became difficult to not have anyone feeling we were ignoring them because unbeknown they were all whispering thinking it was all about them because the chat room was much quieter for us in the moments so we decided to not whisper and it’s not the sort of thing we would do anyhow so not that many guys chatted in amongst it all then so there’s that for a start.
Mado
Mado Tara xx
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