M49 F38
Hotwife , mfm
October 05 2025
Let’s be clear. We are experienced , validated, healthy, fit , fun and most importantly REAL .
We however live towards Goulburn, apparently it’s too far too travel.
We are seeking guys , as per our profile . Pretty simple stuff , chat , share desires then eventually pics , establish connections, then meet and play .
So my question is, why is it so difficult to find someone?
I’m straight, easy going and just want my wife to have fun and be satisfied.
On top of that she’s sexy , fit and willing!!!
Why can’t we find someone?
Any advice please 🙏
Comments
RHP User
8 months ago
You wanna try being a single bloke in here. It’s beyond frustrating.
If you’re ever up on the GC or Brisbane let me know.
Nightglider
8 months ago
Looks like you’ve made some connections already having seen your validations. Some of which look like repeat connections. You’re already doing better than a lot of couples and singles.
Location and availability of peoples times aligning to accommodate travel would no doubt play a part. IMO
Dry spells can be frustrating. Hope you connect for some more fun soon.Facesitnow
8 months ago
Understand the frustration, worth it if find real fun.
RHP User
8 months ago
Are you for real struggling to find a third for a threesome? I have no hope then on the other side of the fence. First and foremost interact with profiles who are validated in an effort to weed out the flakes and potentially people who hide behind a fake profile. Most importantly you'd rather wait for the one that is willing to drive and put in the effort as opposed to someone who feels entitled by being invited in your bedroom.
selfless__lover
8 months ago
My experience as a couple on here looking for a third is that a lot of people have the fantasy of playing with a couple but when push comes to shove and they have to meet up, it's all a bit much and they flake out. Your best bet is to find a regular party in your area or not too far in terms of traveling distance and make some connections there.
TallGreyFox
8 months ago
Hi. I'll DM you
BlueSpark
8 months ago
It's a common experience I'm afraid, lots of flops. For the single men's side, getting ghosted is extremely common so doing long drives for first meets leads to a lot of wasted time and frustration.
Once you get to know a few people it gets easier, you'll find regulars and be able to network through them to meet more people. It's a shame I don't match what you're looking for or I'd be able to help more directly 😋
FeistyFatty
8 months ago
Can't empathize as it's never been difficult, especially just for couple play. Have also lived in isolated regional mining towns, which was more difficult but still not prohibitive. This is also when we started pivoting to group meets and then into hosting our own.
Maybe you'll have to start travelling to make more connections. Your profile shows validations though so you're not doing too bad despite this frustration .... Could be a single bloke, they battle the worst than anyone on here.Naughtytime7
8 months ago
Hi how are you do you come through the blue mountains much
Goodman4funtime
8 months ago
Happy to chat for your visit to Melbourne
Hotwivesclub
8 months ago
We've got good news and bad news for you.
The good news is there are great guys out there - who show up, have the goods, are respectful, love the MFM dynamic and are completely compatible with couples.
The bad news is they're in demand and once they get through their 'notching' or seeking sexual novelty stage they, like so many of us prefer to hang with other good people they already know. So even though they may still like to party it's not as frequently.
Lustie
8 months ago
I have read your profile , and personally, I like it lot . Having said that I am keenly aware that I am outside of what you seek, older than age range, allergic to exercise and going by recent success, apparently not that good looking. Please don't think this reply is a sneaky way of getting in touch. I think , and I could be entirely wrong, that your problem has nothing at all to do with your profile at all . the following is some advice that I have been given over the years both as a single bloke and as one half of a couple very similar to yourselves, some taken from past profiles I have read and met with. None of this is by any means a criticism and should not be taken as such , it is your profile and you should run it how you choose. I see a couple of great pics of Mrs, I do not see a similar pic of Mr , not even one of you both together. You are a couple, display yourselves as such and be proud. I would hesitate to make contact not seeing you up front I'm not talking a full face like mine , or a nude or cock shot , but a body shot like Mrs, give us some idea of who we are considering playing with, Yes your straight , I'm straight , but sooner or later , two blokes are going to get real close in a bloody good threesome. And yes I realise I only have 1 face pic ,,I firmly believe single blokes shouldn't take selfies , they are almost always crap and always more fun to have playmates take them for you, I think mostly the problem your having is as you say, purely the distance involved, this from someone who has driven over 500klms to meet people I found interesting , Every time with NO guarantees but mostly having ended with great play and great friends, There is simply too much on offer "locally" for many to chase someone who who requires real effort simply by location . I do see you have validations , so you are having some degree of success but I also assume these are from those you have when you have travelled and made life easy for your partners , you are simply experiencing what many of us, couples , singles , men and women experience ,, sometimes, for no real reason whatsoever it simply takes more effort than it really should. And it's a damn shame . let me finish by wishing you both the best of luck in your adventures here.
RHP User
8 months ago
Your wife is an absolute foxx! I’m suprised you guys find it difficult, especially considering the people travelling through the area. I would love the opportunity to spend some time with you both but understand it can be quite difficult to coordinate a time that suits both parties
funlovingii
8 months ago
Seems non pushy normal guys with an ounce of patience should do pretty well - ummm, I’ve just gotta wind back a few years lol
Onehunglow
8 months ago
The journey is part of the adventure, sure there are some out there that don’t k ow boundaries or understand the dynamics. I for one become a part of the flirty fun and try to value add to the fantasy and for the most part it’s been fantastic.
RHP User
8 months ago
DM Me, let’s connect
alfieaz
8 months ago
I am pleased to come to you and meet you near Goulburn or wherever you are.
newzensation
8 months ago
🙋🏽♂️ feel free to flick me a msg
Angelo1
8 months ago
Yeah me trying to find exactly what you're after is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack.
madotara69
8 months ago
We’ve been shackled up in one of Cpn NoBeard’s affiliates bilge buster blustering dungeon cabins down in the belly belows of various pirate ships throughout his fleet of pirate captains and the barrel boys, many times I caught Tara or had suspicions she disguised herself as a barrel boy, tho no one seemed to mind so she got away with her way anyway ships away the pirates way, so you could have a dabble in a pirates barrel boy as long as you don’t mind being disguised as one. It’s a win win thing because there’s rarely a dull moment and they come to you, (pardon the pun)
Just keep a look out for Cpn NoBeard or someone who knows him, explain your wife wants to have her way with him and he will know what to do about that…
Mado
Mado Tara xxRHP User
7 months ago
Very interested get in touch
RHP User
7 months ago
Let me know when you’re in Sydney next
newyboy70
7 months ago
Join the Club.
RHP User
7 months ago
Hey guys, I contacted you around this time and haven’t received anything from you… cool if I’m not your flavour but just let me know.. that’s all…
but I’m a pleasure to have around … oh well heh.. 🎩
Kinkycouple377
7 months ago
Omfg !! We are having the exact same issue ! Looking for a male tomorrow night in Melbourne
playfulsydcpl
7 months ago
Feel your frustration and you're not alone, the lifestyle has highs and lows. Winters are dead as people hibernate, hopefully you'll have more luck this coming summer!!
MrWrong
7 months ago
There is a lot of people in Sydney. I don't understand why travelling to Goulburn would be too far for a good time. Kind of like the people who drive around in circles to get a parking spot right near the entrance of a shop. Only to spend an hour walking inside anyway. Having been stood up twice by couples when meeting for a drink, I would not travel thet far for a quick chat. But I would suggest meeting you halfway. I am actually weary of couples pulling out at the 11th hour now and only seek events on RHP. As you will see from my validations.
Pineapple_Events
7 months ago
Frustrated..
Huh, welcome to the lifestyle, first of all I agree, your wife is smoking hot from the pics, so I'm surprised you have, trouble finding someone.
I'm a party organizer and run 4 of the most popular groups, so the profile is very active, I spend so much time messaging people, I regularly run out of my daily message quota, I can exchange 20 messages with people and still it results in nothing, that is just the way it is, all I can say is hang in there, you will meet more people and find the real/ genuine ones!
S33k1ngL1f3Prtna
7 months ago
I understand your frustration.
A suggestion might be if you offer the one night stay and they give your gorgeous wife a blissful Morning glory and leave.... That should make them keen.
Give it a go, nothing to loose. 🫂😘RHP User
7 months ago
Great topic……… I offer an amazing place to stay for couples, groups or singles to enjoy themselves and interact if they wish, yet still get very few responses and you wonder sometimes whether it’s even worth to put up a “date finder.”.
I’m actually not sure people even see them when they come from single men??(I rarely bother any more)
I see we are friends and would be more than happy to get in contact if my profile interests you 2
Happy Days
Makin_Waves
7 months ago
Come and chat to us we can make a plan 😇
newyboy70
7 months ago
Also depends on your Standards. My wife is extremely attractive and as such is on a pedestal. I'm not just letting anyone get that opportunity. Big dick or not.
Also. Guys who aren't willing to travel 90 mins, risk free when we put up hundreds for a hotel room etc.Dave6666
7 months ago
Travelling to Goulburn 3/11.
Gentlelovers
7 months ago
It's either the distance or guys aren't attracted to you guys, or maybe you're being fussy about who you play with,which is good.
We have been in the same scenario, and we were shocked at how many guys disappear when it comes to meeting or playing.
On the other token,there have been many that were rejected by us.
givHeR_pleasHeR
7 months ago
What the absolute f&*€k!!! Expand your age bracket by a couple years and I’ll jump on a flight right now!!
LustyAlfresco
7 months ago
As a couple we share your frustrations and actually wonder about people’s intentions being on this platform. We are verified, validated and very real. We’re not finding success for dates even when lots of notice is given and are pretty flexible.
StrongJames
3 months ago
In my opinion people don’t read the messages they get sent properly if they even open them sometimes
So maybe people need to just read the message or even open the message and it would be a lot easier to make connection with some
I am a single guy looking for mfm happy to travel but don’t get many reply’s
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