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MsSuperFoxy
a month ago
Depends how many wines I've had.
A few glasses in reality disappears and beer goggles come on.
Next morning it's, "Who the fuck are you??".
Ms Foxy
MrandMrsEss
a month ago
Surely this one is pretty much the same for most people? It's the overall vibe and connection at the time. I've had personality trump looks then haven't been able to go there with stunners as the personalities don't match. I'm no oil painting so personality must count for something else I'd be a very unhappy chappie and I'm always grinning :))))
RHP User
a month ago
Personality affects how we’re attracted to looks.
Someone we judge as good looking can very quickly fall to a 0 if they can’t hold a conversation or are lazy / arrogant / entitled.
So honest answer - IRL looks make me take notice but more is needed to clinch the deal. Online I assess photos and bio equally.
PandaAndBri
a month ago
For me, you don’t have to be a Hemsworth but there does need to be something I like in the photo to make me want to message you or respond to a message. Eyes, a cheeky smile, good grooming, then you get a look in to work out if the personality entices me to chat or want more. I guess for me, I need a little of both.
Sinfulcoxy
a month ago
Personality is always a hard must have hey
Cucknshells
a month ago
Initially it is their looks that attracts me. Physical attraction is a funny thing. What one might find attractive another might not. By seeing their photo I get a sense of someone. It might be their eyes or smile. I just trust my gut. If I don't get a good feeling in my gut then I won't take it any further.
Once we start chatting then I get a sense of who they are. Their values, what they want, do we a line, are they a nice person. So in answer to your question looks matter first but if they are a dick I have no interest in meeting them. They might be attractive outside but if they are ugly inside then I can't image they are going to be a great lover. I am not interested in having sex with someone who is selfish and only interested in their own needs and wants no matter how physically attractive they are.
Shells xx
boobsandbusted
a month ago
It’s a happy balance of both
Mr b
nightingale8
a month ago
Looks and smell 💯. Since when is “don’t be a dickhead” stand in for “personality”? lol. Just don’t assume that looks always means conventionally or mainstream attractive. I’m short so everyone is taller than me. I love redheads. I love Arab and Persian men. Some men I love their slim look. I love different. And yes I do love muscled bodies and abs.
Somehow all my relationship partners/exes have all been markedly intelligent though. I guess the pattern speaks for itself. It’s not a prerequisite for a fun time all the same. Most people have something good in their personality to offer, if you’re able to find it.
Deetsy
a month ago
I love great connection, but I really love a nice face to look up at too.
So it needs to be a good mix of the two for me.
hypothetically
a month ago
Personality is definitely my deciding factor, physical attraction is still needed but mainly the ability to make me laugh,,,
55SexyandSingle
a month ago
Physical attraction is important initially … of course … as we are initially judging our interest based on a one dimensional pic. But for me it always comes down to the ‘chemistry’ when we meet for the first time. It is either instantaneous or not there at all for me.
Like others have said, a person can be physically attractive to look at, but have nothing I find attractive when it comes to communication style or mental /intellectual attraction. And for those just seeking a hookup, I guess physical attraction without anything else might be enough. But for me I don’t enjoy the physical connection without the mental connection, as it’s a combination of both that makes a man desirable. And this has always made for much more enjoyable sexual experiences, when there is attraction on multiple levels.
Temptress_T
a month ago
For me physical attraction is important when it comes to sexual connection. There are people we have met that we have got along with socially but have not be sexually attracted to them. Looks play a large part of that attraction, everyone has their type.
RamRoverStang
a month ago
Lucky for me I'm a cunning linguist. The gift of the gab as they say. All a lie of course. My inbox is empty!
RHP User
a month ago
Both matter to me however if a guy has more than two validations, I am not interested. He is too unstable.
Nightglider
25 days ago
Looks are not more important than personality IMO.
I’ve turned down some very attractive people. Attractive for purpose of this post, meaning physically speaking. Looks are not enough.
Can they help? Of course. However, if they don’t share a similar communication style, hold a conversation, or act entitled then it’s a clear no from me.
EuphoricBliss
24 days ago
You can see looks and first impressions count. You can't see a personality. Although most shine through if you allow yourself to see them.
HouseofCandy
24 days ago
Both..
Got to be attracted to you and got to talk to you so definitely both..
Zpaset
23 days ago
For me looks matter less than personality and willingness to play. I'd much prefer to read your profile than look at your pictures.
Ethan123
22 days ago
Looks bring people together - personality keeps the conversation going and makes the play happen ..
It’s the combination of both 😊RHP User
22 days ago
Both matter. However, If he is good looking with a shitty personality, I won't go near him. I can't stand men who think they can be assholes just because of their looks.
missedbythatmuch
19 days ago
We are always attracted by looks first, then its personality that makes the dancing close or dangerously close!
FemmeCDGong
16 days ago
We eat with our eyes first, thats definitely a reality. But I always try to vibe first before anything. Not all tasty looking snacks taste the same.
bunsnbuns
10 days ago
Looks are important for the desire to want to connect, the bait. Personality is needed to want to actualky connect, the hook.
BlueEyesTradie
9 days ago
For me, sexy is as sexy does.
Looks aren't nearly as important as attitude.
Company4myBday
7 days ago
My experience is looks matter first for alooot of ppl
Drtom00
6 days ago
Subjective question.
A little bit from column A. A little bit from column B.
Sometimes my tolerance for the various ratios differ from day to day.
What needs do you need met?Louise2026
5 days ago
Personally for me yes !!! Looks then personality !!!
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