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Guest accounts - do you send “likes”?
August 29 2025
Anyway… I’m a premium member so just wondering for those on free guest accounts - if you’re browsing profiles and you like what you see / would like to make contact with them, will you “like” that profile as a way to send that signal?
Occasionally someone might view my profile ( that’s still a rarity though lol) but they won’t send a like. Fair enough, all good, but if I feel to then I’ll message them. 95%+ of the time this is met with radio silence. I can only assume from that then that although they viewed me they weren’t actually into me.
Is anybody actually meeting anybody on here? 😂
Feel free to roast my profile btw if you feel that’s an issue in all this!
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RHP User
9 months ago
Apparently RHP can’t do paragraphing on posts!🤦🏽♂️
Blueflamingo
9 months ago
As a guest and single woman, I usually dont like profiles, as I dont go profile searching. Kinda just wait and see what drops into my inbox....
Views means nothing, unless the same person keeps viewing you. I view a lot of people and that dont necessarily means I'm interested.
If I was you I would search and put in the criteria for what you are looking for. Read the profiles carefully and write personalised messages.
Your profile is perfect in my eyes. Good write up, not too long, good face pictures with eyes.
Fyi, as a guest, I cant view your fourth picture.. assuming it might be a 🍆?
I prefer validations to know the person is real and not a time waster, but I understand you have just returned and your profile is new.
Good luck! 💙🦩 xMsSuperFoxy
9 months ago
I get where you’re coming from.
For a lot on here it can feel like tumbleweeds. Many males complain and become bitter. You also have competition.
What does seem to work better is putting a bit more personality in your profile or first message so it stands out. Instead of waiting for a like, maybe flip it because you can send messages, if you see a profile you like, send a light, fun opener that makes it easy for a reply.
Likes are nice, but genuine engagement usually gets the ball rolling faster. You might find your experience shifts if you treat "likes" as a little bonus, and focus more on making those connections yourself.
AKA: Put the effort in, send messages at the same time keep your expectations in your pants.
Ms FoxyNeoAndTrin
9 months ago
Guests can't see likes but they can see if you've favourited them. Maybe try that.
Or go to a swingers club and meet people in person. I reckon you'd have more luck with that.RHP User
9 months ago
I used to have a guest account but now I am a paying member. When I was a guest, I used to look at the profiles that I thought were good for me. Some that I liked, I did send them a like (a heart) and some that I did not like, I did nothing. I can only speak for myself though. Some men on here who took me looking at their profile as me liking them would take that as a sign and send me multiple messages one after another after another until I had no choice but to delete the conversation or block them even after I told them I wasnt interested. It's not you. You have to look at what kind of a woman you are trying to attract. We will all have our fans and our "haters."
There are plenty of men on here who come with six packs and good looks that I have said NO to and this is because they has shitty personalities, were only seeking to use me for my private body parts and gave zero f*cks about me as a person.
It comes down to the individual. I have had men who just send "Hi" or "Wanna f**k?" which I have ignored.
Some men liked my profile only without sending me a message. I think to myself then ... 'Why should I waste my energy on such men?"
Overall, I have met some men in real life from here which were real jerks and some which were really, really lovely.
At the end of the day, I send likes to those I like whos profile I viewed and sometimes I will not a send a like to a profile I did view.
I have even sent messaged to men I like.
I do not send likes to men who do not have an extensive or well written profile. If anything is missing in the profile which I deem important, then I wont like them or message them.
Also, any man who has multiple validations like five to ten validatons or more is signals a big red flag to me.
It says to me that this man sleeps around wayyyy too much. That he is shallow, incapable of love and real connection, wants to bang everything and everyone including most likely the local granny that lives on his street. Men like this are not to be trusted in my opinion.
So, for me, it comes down to the individual man.MrandMrsEss
9 months ago
We use likes as a way to say we would be interested in contact and if likes are not returned we for the most part won’t message that profile.
This makes sense to us but often we will message a profile that has liked us only to get the tumbleweeds so obviously even a like can be misconstrued.RHP User
9 months ago
Good topic.
Likes and favs are essentially a flirt / prolonged eyeing up of someone who catches your eye.
I use them loads and some reciprocate, many don’t. It’s part of the chase and it’s fun.
I’m in a similar boat to you - on and off for the best part of 10 years now. The last 2-3 it’s become much more disconnected and I assume because the m2f ratio has worsened somewhat. There’s likely a little dissonance crept in for more people.
That said, it’s a game of numbers. Most women don’t hunt, they wait to be found. We hunt and like any hunter, there’s more rejection than acceptance.
Learn what works for you, be specific about what you want and be bold and open about it. My experience is that being direct gets me what I want - it polarises but then I find it’s obvious who is attracted and who is appalled by me.
Much more interesting than living in the ether and behind passive profile constructs.ArtsyLusttty
9 months ago
I see "Likes" as they likes my photos but "Likes" does nothing for me.
9CHAMELEON6
9 months ago
I usually like their photos or use my one super or ad as a friend to initiate contact
Avalanche
9 months ago
In my situation, I'm new to this sort of structure, testing it out and hoping to make some connections with people who are in the same, open state as me. Being a "guest account" I leave likes for profiles I look at who are in the close proximity as me and hope they want to talk and send me a message because I can't send messages... But I'm getting nowhere fast unfortunately... But I'm told by my friends that "you'll have no problem meeting someone" but I just need that starting point... It's tricky!!
HotWifeUnicorn
9 months ago
Likes aside - Your pool is narrowed because you're looking for women only...
I'm in your neck of the woods and I do play solo, but my kink is group play so I'm best matched with guys who enjoy it too.
You're probably best matched to women who prefer one on one connections.
I do play and connect separately but it's situational. When it comes to guys who live locally I'm looking for more than a ONS and someone whose open to having another guy in the mix so I look at your profile, admire what you're offering and scroll on because we're mismatched.
Lots of guys have told me they fare better on 'normal' dating sites. No doubt that's your experience.NIRVANA123
8 months ago
Hymmm so I rarely search. Therefore I rarely send a like. I would send a comment on the profile or what I like about a pic or pics.... Regarding receiving messages I always always respond to a message. Unless it is outright rude.. say "wanna fuck" or a simple "Hi" I ask for a little more than that. I feel if you ACTUALLY want to make a connection go to the effort to introduce yourself and explain why you have reached out. I hear it over and over that guys send a zillion messages but "radio silence". Appreciate it must be frustrating. On the flipside for a female it is really nice if a dude can at least pick out one thing from your profile to show its been read. Relating to likes.... don't really do it sorry.
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