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Ghosting
December 11 2025
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Blueflamingo
6 months ago
Many people dont deal well with rejection.
It is easier to ghost than to risk coping an abuse.
Bear68
6 months ago
Unfortunately , there's not a lot of common courtesy around any more.
Monnnn
6 months ago
This goes for all online platforms really.
While unpleasant in the moment, communicating any way other than face to face interactions allows people to rid themselves of the usual social etiquette that they'd otherwise display in person (in more than one way). It's easier to get away with different behaviours online.
All that said, I do think it would be both odd and hilarious if I was speaking to someone in person and they suddenly turned around and walked away mid conversation.
Raymonte1
6 months ago
I found it terrible as well
JustAManNextDoor
6 months ago
Maybe we’re just a little old-school and expect too much. The new social norm. Like Monnnn, I take some solace in knowing it happens to everyone on every platform. It really does feel like ghosting has become the modern ‘conversation ender’ no explanation needed, just poof.
Honestly, a good conversation… ah, my kingdom for one! Something with actual wit, a bit of spark, and maybe even a touch of flirtation for those intimate of intimate of moments. But at the end of the day I want to chat with someone who can reply with more than a disappearing act and the occasional emoji.
MsSuperFoxy
6 months ago
Silence is a No.
IMO: I think ghosting is okay in early chats because at the end of the day, it’s just messaging.
No, you dont have to faewell. You don’t know each other yet, there’s no real investment, and silence is a perfectly clear “no thanks". It’s a stranger deciding they don’t want to keep messaging. And that’s their right.
The real issue is that some people get emotionally attached to messages. With a simple "no thanks", some can’t handle that mild rejection. That’s when the insults, guilt-tripping, and abuse get thrown around. No one wants to be on that receiving end.
Meet first, then invest. It isn’t rude. It’s boundaries. It’s clarity through silence.
And it keeps things simple for everyone.
Ms Foxy
Extraman1
6 months ago
Yes it happens far to much, massive amount of ghosting, I'd say 7 out of 10 contacts that actually chat are ghosts!
Casstrevor
6 months ago
We know how you feel, we would rather get thanks but no thanks than left on read or blocked. Even when they are the ones who messaged us first
JellyinHobart
6 months ago
It’s absolutely infuriating as a couple that have to do things let organise the evening plus book a babysitter and just to have someone ghost whether it’s a few days out or on the day. We are so willing to commit and organise for a night of and have an enjoyable encounter. I fill like even though RHP has been great for weeding out the fakes and flakes, some still manage to get through?
J_J_1998
5 months ago
I've had there exact situations happening on here, have though had the few kind people that will message back to let me know if they are not interested instead of just straight up ghosting.
Sometimes the ghosting may be aswell the overwhelming amount of messages people get sometimes to catch up or them being guest aswell becomes an issue for replying.
FunnyBum
5 months ago
Happens all the time one minute so much convo late at night early morning through the day and then bam....convo is done and you get monosyllabic answers. Oh well keep on trying I guess
Lakesidecpl
5 months ago
It always makes us laugh a bit. Yes it can get frustrating and we are lucky as a couple if we get a hotel room still get used to it's full potential lol! Some people think they want this until it gets hard or not exactly how they thought! Suck for them we are a great time!!!! Merry Christmas
Beardedviking34
5 months ago
I'm assuming that happens a lot on this or any other platforms like this. Sometimes some people have a hard time ending a conversation or having the decency to say they are not interested in conversing.
TallGreyFox
5 months ago
There should be a way to downvote users on here for ghosting. So that other people know the person has a history of ghosting others.
MarioKartNChill
5 months ago
Very common, unfortunately.
BBBuster
5 months ago
xXJOXx
Happens me all the time lol
And lucky to even get a response
99per cent of times
But ya I get it
Not nice
Lvtkss
5 months ago
Hi forum, first time I'm on here. Do women take rejection harder than men? Most men do the chasing so if one ghosts there will always be another to take his lace and just think of it as his loss. I can take rejection it's a matter of respecting the other person's wishes. Why be with someone or put effort in to someone who doesn't match with you.
There are gentlemen out there. xx
Trevs
5 months ago
Its bloody terrible
Pocketrocket602
5 months ago
I think ghosting is perfectly acceptable in the early stages of chatting, especially if you haven't met yet. Is it nice to be on the receiving end? No but not everybody here owes you a damn thing, the entitled mindset is wild.
For me personally, if your end of the conversation is drier than the Sahara I'll cut it off and delete your messages 🤷♀️ I've mentioned in my profile my time is precious and I won't engage in small talk. We're all adults here, time to be responsible for our own feelings, accept rejection with the mindset that not everybody is our cup of tea and vice versa. Move on and put that energy into something worthwhile. Desperation, begging and aggressive behaviour won't be tolerated by me, it's a huge turn off and I won't even block you to show you unbothered by you I am 🤷♀️😁
bigred222
5 months ago
Yeah technology makes it easier to do unfortunately i think ive had one message the whole time ive been on here and they ghosted me 🤷
9CHAMELEON6
5 months ago
They could be on a guest account 🤔
Unbecoming
5 months ago
It's been disheartening to engage in wonderful conversation over a nice period of time, meet with someone and have a great time together... they say lovely things and then ghost you. I don't think I was prepared for that kind of ending.
Behaviour is communication so I can draw my own conclusions, but a simple explanation never hurts x
mobydick4000
5 months ago
I see from your profile you are part of a couple, XJox. I've found when unicorn hunting on the alternative dating apps, that there are women seeking the attention or in the lead up to meeting suddenly ghosting. Which I've been told is because the fantasy can be more appealing then the actual. Put the two together, and you get the ghosting. But this also happens on the mainstream dating apps. Hope this helps.
RHP User
5 months ago
I take it that no response is a response. It is on them.
GlitzyGiraffe
5 months ago
Common courtesy decamped with common sense. 🙄
GlitzyGiraffe
5 months ago
I think that the important thing for consideration is for the ghosters to note the anguish it causes some. For those being ghosted that there appears that they have had negative experiences with declinations.
There is no perfect it seems
Iamhere2021
5 months ago
Whats with the people when they send friend requests or like profile, and never reply you back when you initiate a conversation. Why to send request or like profile if you don’t wanna take it further?
FoxyForty
5 months ago
It’s the deleting of messages for me. Sometimes I see the messages, read them and then get caught up with the kids so can’t reply straight away. Seems super dodgy.
Valleywinds
5 months ago
Totally agree I’m new here and it’s happened twice already , if this is what this site is about then after my subscription is up I’m out .
Coffee4Ever
5 months ago
It's a part of life ppl ghost for many reasons, don't take it personal, move on to the next conversation. Overthinking will kill any fun you could have on this site. Goodluck hun
cunninglinguist
5 months ago
Could be a fake account. I’ve chatted with 3 profiles where the conversation was flowing smoothly and then ended very abruptly. Usually when it was time to take things further. After 3 such occurrences, I’m convinced that those are fake account, usually a guy masquerading as a lady.
LouLou00
5 months ago
Unless you pay $$$, you get limited features…
RHP User
5 months ago
People are too quick to judge others based on their past experiences. don’t judge a book by its cover and ppl have taken it the other way around. Just take a pinch of salt and move on 😜
RHP User
5 months ago
Lots of time wasters on here unfortunately
TimeandPlace
5 months ago
It’s not a great feeling, ive done it inadvertently by not logging in for ages - and it’s been done to me. I tend to give people plenty of leeway - it’s an app on a phone and generally life is busy.
If there is energy/vibes between people it will flow naturally anyway.
But being nice and polite is free..
duoflux
5 months ago
Yes, it is a matter of common courtesy, but it has become increasingly uncommon in today’s world. The fear of awkwardness and the low level of accountability in online interactions contribute to this.
SCR34M
5 months ago
Ghosting is commonplace because online connections are semi-artificial and don't hold real substance like a time before we had smartphones and social media, when people connected properly, the meaningfulness isn't what it used to be. Ghosting is something people do to avoid being ghosted themselves. They want to end the communication in a higher position than the other person. But remember, what goes around comes around, three fold. So take that into consideration the next time to see decide to go cold turkey with someone.
Thebellahaze
5 months ago
I know it's so annoying
Kai2112
5 months ago
It’s a cruel world out there. If I don’t get a reply then I’ll assume “she’s just not into you bro”
Lordloverocket
5 months ago
Yep the sites a joke either gay blokes posing as couples, or cybot chicks, or if you do speak for abit they ghost and timewaste
THEGIRTHDON
5 months ago
U can message me
Extraman1
5 months ago
Ghosting has become a very big problem that is for sure!
RHP User
4 months ago
Sadly this is the modern world we live in regardless whether it’s RHP or mainstream social media . I guess it’s a case of patience comes with reward if you conduct yourself in the right way with the right people .
Sempat
4 months ago
Agree. Sadly courtesy is not as common as it could be. After all there is a real person with real feelings on the other side of the screen. Always up for a chat.
Extraman1
4 months ago
You are so correct end if you like but courtesy of thanks but no thanks at least!
Justusinabubble
4 months ago
As a non member, who drops in occasionally if it has been 7 days I can’t respond
Troubz1
4 months ago
Common courtesy is like common sense, its a beautiful flower that doesn't grow in everyone's garden
FairyFloss
2 months ago
TLDR: if I can see you've made effort, I will reply regardless of outcome. If there was no effort and nothing on ur profile makes me think maybe, I will click 'not interested'.
You are only as good as ur profile and first message.
I've hidden a trick on my profile that lets me know if the person has read it. If they did, I would respond. Respect my decision and don't try to convince me that I'm missing out.
I still get people who still message despite having my deal breakers.
"no, thanks" is longer than "hi". It's absurd to demand a response when they didn't even bother typing more than 2 letters. If it takes more effort to reject than ghost, I click the 'not interested' button.
Annalynnx
2 months ago
Ghosting on this platform is horrendous. What also grinds my teeth is when people block you PURELY because you didn't respond back quick enough..... Come on, I don't expect people to reply back instantly and vice versa.
Kinkraft
2 months ago
I'm not sure we can expect other people to behave in a specific way. I've found it's easier to see ghosting for what it amounts to... a non-event.
The why of it isn't all that important. Assuming we're not being assholes, someone's opinion of us shouldn't change our behaviour. Any feedback you get would be tailored to their interests... and these opinions may not good for you, even if they're (unusually) accurate, fair, and reasonable.
aaenjoy
2 months ago
The picture collectors tend to be the main ghosts, chat, chat, seek a pic, see if a nude one. If shared, then bang. They are gone. We have learned our lesson….
PandaAndBri
a month ago
I understand ghosting with small starter chats. I don’t really like it but I understand. Unfortunately I have been on the receiving end of talking to a guy for almost a month and we had a meet and greet booked and then all of a sudden one day he was gone. It did hurt my feelings as we had been talking every second day or so and I thought there was a connection.
Please for the love of all that is holy, if you are going to dip out, please leave a small message. We were only very new to this. And it really sucked for me. Luckily I have some supportive friends in the lifestyle to talk to about it. It is not nice at all.
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