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Events / Parties, Need a wing-woman (Melbourne)

April 26 2025

Hey Ladies,
How do you go attending events / clubs alone?

I'm wanting to explore this lifestyle as a highly sexual single female but the idea of going out alone is enough to keep me home..

I don't have any single friends I could take to be a wingman, how do you make new friends in your 40s when you're slightly introverted and a tad shy?

The idea of even attending a Mingle event without a Friend to hang with gives me the 'nopes'.

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seekandplay
a year ago
Hey there! Feel free to message me. I was you, 18 months ago. Going to my first party solo was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in this scene… but have made life long friends now from putting myself out there. Would be happy to connect and help! x
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RHP User
a year ago
I feel the same way. I want to go to but need a friend to go with. Too shy lol 😂
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ArtsyLusttty
a year ago
I went to the events on my own (with noone and no friends)... so be brave and GO! 😊💜
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seekandplay
a year ago
So - as scary and hard as it is, just bite the bullet and go. This community is so wonderful, I assure you the people at the parties are very welcoming. You’ll know if you’re at a good party if the host makes you feel welcome - they tend to look after the Single F’s a little more, especially when they are new. Make sure you go through a vetting process, that way you know they really care about the type of crowd they are curating for the night. Most private parties also have online connection, and so you start getting to know the people who attend frequently, so that helps a lot too. My first party I was petrified. I went alone, had never been exposed to that scene at all. I stayed for a few hours and left when I felt it getting a bit too much. Each party since then has become easier.
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RHP User
a year ago
My advice would be to go into the chat rooms and sus out of there are others going to the events and see if you can meet them there or beforehand.

This is how I started going to the social events. I made friends with other women and couples in chat and went to events with them so I didn't have to turn up on my own 😊
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Blueflamingo
a year ago
Go go go, you will not regret it!

Mingle is a great party to start with because it's a social event. It is an easy way to dive into the scene and meet some new people.

I made two amazing girlfriends at one mingle and one hot connection with a girl at my next one. We are in contact almost daily, and they have been the highlight of mingle for me.
I went on my own and just went up to them and said hi, the rest is history.
We have caught up afterwards and gone to parties together.

There is nothing to lose and so much to gain.
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RHP User
a year ago
I love it! I even dance on my own🤣 you find friends pretty quickly. I’m a social butterfly and believe it or not I’m an introvert 🤣

I had to pretend I wasn’t …. Fake it till you make it …. broke me out of my shell.

Don’t get me wrong, I have a lot of friends, if no one is available.. it’s just me😍

I’m happy in my skin…curvy … and I smile at everyone.
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NoStrings7654321
6 months ago
Im exactly the same, I dont want to go alone and stand there twiddling my thumbs, while others eye ball me and give me anxiety. If you ever want a buddy to explore these events with, id be happy to pick u up, drive, and hang out with you, even be your wingman, im sure it wouldnt take long to make friends, its just the first couple of times where a friend would really help.
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RHP User
6 months ago
I'm always used as a wingman by male and female friends, and am responsible for most of their husbands and wives. YES I'm the kind of man that can bring life to a dead event full of strangers! (I used to be a carnival/circus worker) And it sucks hard.. why? everyone else has families and sex 6x per week and now I'm 50+, single and alone for over 5yrs and since I live in Adelaide, all mature gals are taken/gone and all I get now is neurotic 20yo's with a grandpa sex fetish that only last 10min in bed (I can go for 2hrs+) but no-one to truly love...
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