Etiquette - after a first meet up/ play session

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  MrandMrsEss

  4 months ago

  Either dick on curtain or a nice message saying we enjoyed our night and an indication of we hope to repeat.

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  Briscouple29

  4 months ago

  Usually once dressed, a hug at the goodbye.
  
  Either later that night or next morning (typically), we send a message thanking them for a good night. If we are interested in playing again, we’d provide an indication to leave that possibility open.
  
  Once they reply, we ask if they want a validation. Some people want them, others aren’t too bothered 😊

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  MsSuperFoxy

  4 months ago

  I’m all for good manners, a thank you is preferred, but I also don’t need anyone lingering like an awkward house guest.
  A quick check in message later? That's Lovely and sweet.
  Hanging around immediately after? No thanks! I’ve got important post play duties to do like opening the curtains, washing bedding etc and getting on with my life. 😂
  
  Ms Foxy

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  Felicitous

  4 months ago

  Ohhh great post!
  Expectations are so personal aren't they... And nothing feels sexy about saying 'before'... "I expect you to message me tomorrow / within the week.. or I may unravel from post coital consideration' 😬
  
  I feel like the 'next day message' is a wonderful barometer for their care factor/ future intentions/ interest and compatibility.
  
  I've been left unread afterwards... which made me question the whole (night before experience) and to be honest even if it was 'okay' in the moment - that level of disregard after intimacy does make one feel incredibly insignificant.
  It certainly made me realise and feel like I don't have the constitution for 'casual' sex.
  
  Whether the experience was good or bad -
  I would hope anyone I'm sharing time with marries similar expectations.
  
  Suited or not I'd expect someone to be kind and courteous and if not a match be mature enough to articulate that.
  
  Perhaps old-fashioned, but I'd prefer the man to send the first message, however if I didn't hear from that someone the next day (even just as a brief check in/ thank you/ no thank you / all the best ...)
  I'd initiate something later in the day
  
  We are all are busy.. I totally get that but if someone doesn't have a few minutes to check in post intimacy - I'm not investing any more of my time or energy.
  
  Their response or lack there of would definitely be the deciding factor of a second meet.
  As everything is in this crazy world of pie ... It's a great tool for realising a screw needs a driver not a hammer 😂🤷🏻‍♀️
  
  And a skilled technician to know the difference 🩷
  
  V

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  LandR202

  4 months ago

  Ok … agree with everything Felicitous says but …
  Is it too much to say that etiquette in my fanciful imagination would be a message along the lines of …
  “Thank you for the most amazing night you total Goddess…”
  Ok
  So I may have become a little too accustomed to being with a Latino 🫠
  He set the bar very, very high… *swoons*

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  Cucknshells

  4 months ago

  Loving all the responses. Very insightful and food for thought.
  
  The reason I posted was because I wondering if it is generally accepted/ expected that after a meet you should provide some communication afterwards.
  
  For me I think it is common courtesy to touch base with the person(s) afterwards and let them know you had a good time. To show some aftercare and validation. To let them know where you are at. Even if you have checked out to state that in a constructive way.
  
  I find it confusing with good communication beforehand and then to have silence afterwards. I can only assume why this is the case thus my post. I don't like making assumptions.
  
  Was hoping to get the opinions from some single men as well. Just interested in the thought process once it is all over. What their expectations are and what their thought process is afterwards.
  
  Shells xx

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