Etiquette

July 08 2025

Hubby and i recently attended our first swingers club and whilst that club might not have been our best fit, we loved every moment and will be heading to others to see what they’re like. We met a lovely younger couple I’d say maybe late 20s to mid 30s who lived in coolum which was rare for us to meet a couple near home. Maybe it was nerves or maybe reading the vibe wrong but we never exchanged details and I keep wondering what if.
So is it weird and stalkerish behaviour to attempt to find this couple to see if they’d like to continue chatting to see if we vibe, or just cut our losses and chalk up the experience to not be so shy in asking.

Comments

  • Ex007

    Ex007

    a year ago

    There is the saying that if they wanted to they would.

    But from experience, people usually play it cool and if they come across you again then an exchange happens.

    Hope this helps.

  • Brian_Breynolds

    Brian_Breynolds

    a year ago

    There’s nothing wrong with that at all. If they don’t want to engage they can just ignore you.

    Of course, I’m assuming you mean trying to find them on here, not tracking down their workplaces and sending a barbershop quartet with flowers to serenade them in front of their colleagues while a manager reads aloud a handwritten card declaring the two of you have a romantic interest in the two of them and would be very interested in continuing the conversation started at the swingers club that will hopefully culminate in a night of ecstatic debauchery involving the four of you naked in a hotel suite engaging in intimate relations such as cunnilingus, fellatio, and potentially double penetration, with each other’s spouses.

    Because that would be a little OTT.

  • NeoAndTrin

    NeoAndTrin

    a year ago

    I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to track them down as long as it's not overly excessive.

    Upside is if they turn you down at least it's not in the club where that might be awkward/disheartening for some first timers.

  • seekandplay

    seekandplay

    a year ago

    I am on a Melbourne swingers page on another platform starting with R, I see couples trying to hunt down others all the time from venues they’ve met at… with success! No harm in a little search, you never know. Good luck! x