M34
Do women actually message men ?
March 24 2026
In understanding I may or do need more photos to attract the ladies attention. I do reserve them for if people message due to work issues and so on.
Love to hear people’s take on this as I have a feeling it may be just me.
Thanks for reading
Comments
RHP User
2 months ago
Probably been said a thousand times in the forums but men hunt, women wait. They won’t be messaging you anytime soon.
There are a small handful (maybe less that 10) who pay for a membership to find men. Most of those are sex workers or other guys taking the piss.
Go and find them. Everyone else is hunting.
MsSuperFoxy
2 months ago
Yes, women do message men.
Just not the ones putting in zero effort or the mysterious ‘dentists’ who somehow claim they work for the Italian mafia, ASIO or the Chinese mafia.
Ms Foxy
OpalRose
2 months ago
There is almost no need for women to pay for a membership. The messages flow in at a rate faster than anyone can keep up.
And if they don’t need to pay, they won’t be able to message.
If they do pay, their choice will be the best profiles with the best photos… not excuses.
seekandplay
2 months ago
I only have a paid membership because I wanted to ping someone in the forums recently I’ve been wanting to chat to for ages. Then I forgot to cancel my subscription and it’s rolled over again. Have been here for just over 2 years, only paid once (and no, not to message a man!) If I saw someone who reallllllly peaked my interest, then I’d pay for a monthly membership but that’s yet to happen because this place is like being a lamb to the slaughter. There’s almost zero need for a woman to pay.
Your bio does scream a little desperate to get people to message you, sorry 😬 If you want to chat to women, you’re just going to have to pay.
nightingale8
2 months ago
I have done both. When I have messaged it hasn’t always been the warmest or engaging reception. I’d guessed perhaps it was less valuable to a guy if it was the woman making the first move, or maybe I’m just going for the wrong profiles. If I do start a conversation I don’t tend to have many other conversations flowing at the same time so it’s a let down when nothing happens and I have put aside so many other conversation requests. Everyone has their own reasons for being here I know
Screamqueen
2 months ago
Women are not going to send you a message, lol.
RHP User
2 months ago
Why not just bite the bullet and pay for a month?
DeepSouthern
2 months ago
Women have it on tap anytime they want it. RHP is for swingers, sluts, gays, trans and only young guys with 8inch are gonna get action. Go to church bro, find a good girl.
mysterious_soul
2 months ago
Women definitely message men, but you need to find a way to stand out in the crowd and get noticed. Not an easy thing to do especially because the crowd of men is gigantic here.
I went through your profile and i noticed you only have one picture and a very limited bio. Maybe try to upload more pictures. Don’t be afraid what others might think of you using this platform. it’s your life, so live it to the fullest because nothing worse than looking back and thinking “what if”
If you’re not comfortable uploading more pictures of yourself. try to improve your bio, tell more about yourself, your hobbies, your interests. Find ways where people feel a connection with you.
Last tip, don’t wait till someone message you. try to buy a subscription and message someone else first. Could be a simple message like this “hey, your bio (or sincere compliment about her looks) grabbed my attention. This is a picture of my face because as you probably noticed on my profile picture you can only see my nipple 🙃. Feel free to shoot a message back if you’re interested because i would love to get to know you better ☺️”
BarberBoss1981
2 months ago
I pay for a membership so I have more control over my privacy settings but I occasionally send the first message...when I have it is has been to men who have been recommended to me by a friend or men who have put a lot of effort to making their profile appealing. I would never send a message to a profile with no validations though.
I dont want a bunch of back and forth with someone inexperienced. Validations show me if they might have something I want
Flirty2020
2 months ago
No, we never initiate a message with a male on here.
EuphoricBliss
2 months ago
It is a very wild assumption here that confident women who chase, are sluts. I am a woman with a high sex drive and do not muck around. I do not have to. If someone is not interested then I move onto the next. I will not burst your bubble, but I go after what I want and skip the small talk. It works for me. Happy hunting !
NotMandy
2 months ago
Instead of a subscription, stay as a guest and grab some conversation credits.
There are some interesting comments on here, why do some men put women down when they want something so personal and private from us, I had one guy say just let me use your c*nt, some serious issues I guess, perhaps treat women a bit better than just a fuck or maybe women should be paid if you want to treat us like that
Toydoll
2 months ago
Yes, occasionally, not often. If their profile hits a spot with me. Less often if no validations, because it’s still hard to know what someone’s like until you actually meet.
Cumswallowa
2 months ago
All the guys I’ve meet on here have either messaged me first, or if they’re a guest account they’ve commented on my events and then I’ve sent a message.
Unfortunately to be able to message people especially women, you’ll have to become a paid member.
Johnnymichelle
2 months ago
If you’re going to wait for women texting you unfortunately you will be disappointed!
Best advice is dress up go out and find someone you like! 👍🏼
Runfree82
2 months ago
I think this should read do women actually wanted messages from men lol
Book_Worm
2 months ago
There is no need for a membership if you want to be able to send messages. I am not a paid member. I have purchased message credits that have lasted me ages because as a woman on here I do get a lot of messages. When I see a guest profile that catches my attention I'll then use one of my credits to send that person a message. As long as the conversation doesn't fizzle out after 7 days, we can still keep messaging each other for as long as we want on the one message credit. It's far cheaper than membership if you don't intend to send a crap load of messages to different people.
Fun2forfun
2 months ago
Might need to pay for a membership so you can message first
Savy001
2 months ago
The problem is timing. A women’s inbox will be over flooded and alot of the time they might just be looking and waiting but it’s approaching with some effort and read their bio to spark a real conversation. But honestly you are competing with a lot of men so remain positive and maybe send messages out in peak time when most people are bored of an evening and see if anything changes. Hope this helps in someway
RHP User
a month ago
Personally, I’d never walk up to someone without seeing their face, their eyes, their energy. Same applies to photos. Show more you. I do understand that there’s a level of discretion needed due to work. Like, I really shouldn’t have my face visible but without that, there’s less pull. Photos always speak louder than words. There will always be women searching for what they want.
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