Couples - auto free pass for low effort openers?

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  RHP User

  a year ago

  To me it shows they are sending messages to too many ppl and not reading the profile. its like they are firing in dark. I personally wont appreciate it.

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  couplelooking

  a year ago

  For us if they can’t even say hello and have a little chat to see if we vibe and looking for similar play then we are not interested.. certainly wouldn’t invite them into our home to play

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  Flexi3rd

  a year ago

  I have no problem with low effort first msgs.
  It's the second one that counts.
  As you said, they come from people you wouldn't match with, so what does it matter.... I assume you don't reply in that case?
  The first msg is just a way of saying "hey, do you want to chat?" and if you happen to respond in the affirmative, THEN put some effort in.
  Most people probably see no point to putting a lot of thought into an initial msg when they expect to be ignored most of the time.
  It's the ones who send you a message and then can't string more than three words together that irk me.

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  Felicitous

  a year ago

  Honestly I don't really care too much about the first message... Or a starting place of 'hello'... If I like someone's profile I'll engage.
  For me it was never about the first message - rather the second, third etc.
  It's pretty apparent, pretty quickly if there is chemistry.
  
  Someone could have the most beautifully crafted first message but if I'm not attracted to their profile I wouldn't engage ,other than a polite rejection.
  
  Of course if they're crude or overtly sexual in that first message - no matter their profile it would be a pass... But generally a 'Hi' I think is okay.. it's what follows that really matters.
  
  V 🤷🏻‍♀️

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  MsSuperFoxy

  a year ago

  It's effortless and piss poor.
  I ignore all messages with those intros.
  
  Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  a year ago

  I don’t really care about them
  Sometimes I respond with a “hey” and it just dies a natural and inevitable death…
  Mostly I don’t get to replying before I lose access to chat …
  But it really doesn’t faze me tbh

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  Nightglider

  a year ago

  I’m not a fan of one word openers.
  It’s much worse when they come from a profile with no pic or bio and from someone who is not verified. Unfortunately that is often the case. Often they are also the ones that will send repeat messages after being ignored for their single word opener.
  
  I’ll rarely respond to a single word opener. If I do, it is only if they have good profile pics, a well written bio, and more points if they are verified, and have at least one validation.

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  Apples_N_Oranges

  a year ago

  As an intro message ‘good evening’ is a bit short, but they have still written more than two letters 😅. If we receive an intro message from someone, single or couple, and all they write is ‘hi’ we will respond with same, hopefully encouraging them to put a bit more effort into their next message.

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