41-year-old lad just wanting to experience BDSM for the first time

Apart from the obvious, where you find the people that can help you in this area and what kind of keyword would you enter on the computer to find them local. I’m single now but I was in a relationship for 26 years and married to her for over half that. Unfortunately we didn’t have the most exciting or confident sexy time.

I’m in Wellington New Zealand and I don’t know many people here and I’ve had a lot of these fantasies for a long time of sub and Dom toys blindfold handcuffs and I’m sure there’s a lot of others but it’s weird and how do you get to develop a healthy playtime in a relationship. So are there any locals that can assist or any from abroad with brilliant ideas.